Bride or Groom's name on Invite??!!!

I actually think it is customary for the brides name to be first. Dates back to when the bride's parents paid for the wedding.

The brides name is always supposed to go first. Even in monograms. Even "in the days" that's how it was.

I thought the bride always went first too. "Ladies first". And then I thought people started doing it by alphabetical order. In our case it depends what side of the family you talk to, his family says Matt & Melissa and my family says Melissa & Matt. I believe on the invite we went with my name first because the lady said it was most common.

All the websites I went on to look for invites had brides name first.

I've only ever seen the brides name first on invitations.

Even Emily post says the brides name goes first...even if his parents are paying

Totally depends on the couple. DH and I decided that my name would go first on everything as it sounds better in that order. There wasn't much else behind that decision. It was after we decided I learned we picked the "correct" order.

Brides name goes first. Unless (from the little bit of research I have done) the groom is military then his rank and name go first.

FH is a retired Air Force....and my name went first, even though it was technically wrong.

LOLZ thank you!.... always been told it was man's name first.

I've always seen the bride's name first!

Dolly, What?? Troll?

What the heck are you talking about Dolly?

I am asian american and didn't get marry the american ways. My first marriage was arranged. This will be my second marriage (im breaking all the traditional rules)...(Yes, even in today's time... many still practice this even in America)

So you are planning a wedding? I thought you were asking about a friend. Ok. Well, happy planning. Are you marrying the same man?

Edit: I'm not sure anymore; ignore this.

Well, I'm a little confused by the "jungle people traditional ways" comment, but yeah, the bride's name pretty much always goes first on an invitation. I think - like someone else mentioned - the only time it doesn't is if the man is military and includes his rank.

Of course, if you don't want to be traditional, do whatever you want. No one is going to refuse to come to your wedding because you put his name first on the invitation (probably, hehe). But if you're asking what is normally done, then it's bride's name first.

ETA: Ahh, I see. A joke about arranged marriages. Okay, I guess I get it now. I very was confused.

I'm super confused by this whole post. None of your comments make any sense.

I was told a man's name is always first. My girlfriend's name was first on her invites and I didn't want people to also question mine invite as I know my FH will want his name first. Just asking...

Well congrats on marrying someone you do love? I agree with the other ladies, your comments are kind of po balling all over the place.

Also, dolly... Change your avatar to a picture (doesn't have to be of you) and we'll be less inclined to call troll! We have a lot of people stir up weird stuff on this site (as much as it's hard to imagine who's find fun in that)