Bride telling bridesmaid she can't wear hijab to the wedding

This would be a friendship dealbreaker for me. I don’t wear a hijab but there are few other things you could say to someone that so clearly says “I don’t respect you, your comfort, your culture or your experience at all” Wow. This woman should be ashamed of herself and should probably be rethinking whether she’s mature enough to get married at all.

Wow I can't imagine making such a request. It is so disrespectful of the girl's religion and she did the right thing backing out.

I just read the title, nothing else, and my mouth literally fell to the floor. I agree with the PP, this would be a friendship dealbreaker for me. That's disrespect to the fullest degree.

It’s appalling that brides behave this way. But, since joining WW, I am realizing there are a lot of people who advocate for treating their bridesmaids like photo props, with complete disregard to their comfort levels. So sad. I’m glad this BM had the courage to remove herself from that toxic situation.

That is absolutely insane. Poor girl and I’m glad she stuck up for herself and her beliefs. Not sure trashing the bride to the other maids was exactly the high road, but I can see why she wanted to make sure it was clear why she was dropping out.

It’s crazy to me that people will stoop that low just for their aesthetic preferences. Personally I didn’t give my bridal party any “regulations”. I picked the color for the dresses but let them pick their own style, letting them do whatever the heck they want for their hair and makeup too.

Why would she request that?! I am glad the girl stuck her grounds and said no. You can't just change people to match your wedding. They are not dolls!

That is ridiculous. I mean it is okay to have your bridesmaids match within reason if they are comfortable with it. But seriously, you can't expect a bridesmaid to put aside her religion and culture for a wedding! I hope the bride has learned her lesson.

Yikes! I mean I get the whole it is the bride's day argument. But I wouldn't even consider ever disregarding a bridesmaid's or anyone else's faith.

View Quoted Comment I absolutely agree. I couldn't imagine telling my bridesmaid that she had to set aside her culture and religion for my wedding. I get wanting them to match, but when they are uncomfortable or you want them to in a way disrespect their culture or religion. That's just stepping seriously out of line. I'm glad the bridesmaid dropped out of the wedding.

That is ridiculous and mean.
But...reddit has a lot of creative writing stories to generate outrage.

I mean if anything the most I would ask a friend to do is wear a hijab that matched the dress, I think its extremely disrespectful to ask her to not wear one when it goes against her entire belief system.

The audacity people have! Those are supposed to be the people we love and honor.

That is crazy! Good for the friend for backing out

HOLY COW.

Ok, not the best reaction, but, um.

WHY.

Like, why even bother being her friend if her religious expression bothers you that much?

...My BMs confused me by liking the same dress, when I was encouraging them to find their own style and comfort in the color I picked. They asked about shoes and jewelry and my response was, "whatever you want?" Those things are so personal to me!

Your BP are PEOPLE you ostensibly enjoy spending time with... I assume you don't tell them what to wear/look like/behave then... I hope not...

How you treat your BP is generally a really good litmus test for how ready you are for marriage.

View Quoted Comment I'm glad you pointed this.
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