Bride wants us all the wear the same hairstyles?

I can't believe brides are still doing this especially if she is not paying. I'd be honest with her and tell her that you too want to look and feel your best. Maybe even show her two different hairstyles you like and ask which one she'd prefer.

Honestly, if the bride isn't paying, you should wear your hair however you want! Feel free to alter the hairstyle however you'd like because it's your hair and your money

If she is not paying there is no reason she should be forcing you to wear an unflattering hairstyle. The blatantly obvious bobby pins just looks tacky and I would certainly mention that to the bride. Honestly, I would be tempted to just get the hairstyle I feel comfortable with if I have to pay, but I also think you should discuss it with her first.

I think it is fine for her to insist on a hairstyle however unflattering it may be, but only if she's paying. If she's not paying you should get to pick the style.

This is my least favorite things bride's do. I honestly don't think brides should dictate HAMU even if they pay for it. I'm not a fan of the "bridesmaids robot" look where everyone has the exact same dress, shoes, hair, makeup, nails, jewelry, etc. because there is no way they all look their best or feel their best. Has anyone expressed their concerns to the bride?

If you're paying for your own hair she can't tell you how to wear it. Tell you're uncomfortable with your hair like that but will pick something elegant that is more flattering and leave it at that.