bride with a newborn

How are you going to plan a wedding and have a baby in the same month? Seems like too much stress for you.

I would be pushing that wedding WAYYY back. You will have no idea what size dress to order or anything.. either have your wedding while your pregnant or at least wait a few months before having the wedding.

Move the wedding, the first month with a new baby is not the time to be in the final days of planning a wedding

Push the wedding back. You want to be able to experience both your wedding and the birth of your first child and enjoy both. A newborn plus a wedding equals more stress than most people can comfortably handle.

I would move the date.You are going to be stressed like crazy and still recovering from having a baby.

Walking down the aisle three weeks after you give birth is possible, though the dress would need to have a somewhat forgiving waistline and a bust that could allow for nursing pads. But you would need to be super-organized to get everything organized before the earliest you could go into labor. You'd have to be flexible enough to deal with the fact that the baby might be late, and thus the wedding might be as little as a week after it was born. And you'd have to understand that you'd likely not be up to dancing all night at your reception.

Alternatively, you could reschedule. "I'm having a baby that month" is generally accepted as an excuse for moving the wedding.

Is this your first child? The first ones never come out when expected, My son came nearly a month early. Where my GF delivered late she had him induced...

Please don't forget about recovery time also. I know it's exciting but I would either push the wedding up or wait a little longer. Def let us know what you decide we are here for you.

I would definitely move the wedding date!!! You don't know what size you will be, if the baby will be on time or take longer, if he or she will sleep well at night or keep u up all night and sleep all day (happened to me because she had bad reflux), are you nursing? Who's going to be with baby? It's not ideal to have baby around a lot of people at not even a month old, and EVERYONE will want to hold him or her, and not to mention the 5+ weeks of heavy bleeding (yes it IS true), and the milking boobs!!! I would move it up, or push it back.... You're spending a lot of money on this day. It should be special in every way, and you should enjoy it to the fullest! Btw,congratulations. It truly is life changing.... I believe in love at first sight because of my daughter. <3

I was in the exact same shoes as you last year. Found out I was pregnant in august had the baby May 9th :-) originally we wanted to do it this October (2013) but there is no way I'd beable to plan and concentrate. The first 6-8 weeks are the worst. You get no sleep. You are still recovering & adjusting to the new baby. I have to agree push back your date, that way you aren't stressing over the new baby and planning a wedding. Congrats btw :-)

Thanks guys you make some really good points. i don't want my baby being paraded around to everybody so young its just dangers. but moving the date has its own set of problems

i have a big family speed out all over the world coming

and the venue is already booked.

we might run into upsetting a lot of people if we pick to wrong day.

its outdoors and the summers are too hot even thought there is a lot of shade.

the venue also has events going on during the summer.

Moving it a few weeks or days seems pointless and my father in law will be getting married in Montanan the 3 week in June.

and the end of summer is always depressing and people will be out of vacation time. and the same time next year my family in Texas have graduations so they wouldn't be able to make it.

i don't want to move it ahead because i am scared of stress induced premature labor.

so what does that leave me with?

When you become a parent, you decide based on what's best for your baby. How mad everyone else gets isn't really relevant. You can have something more casual if you'd like. But I feel like it would be more of a meeting baby, than your wedding talk to your venue and see your options. And plenty of people get married pregnant... It's just trying to have easy planning along the way. But baby comes first.

Move the wedding to the next fall or winter? or move it back close to a year (March or April).

Who cares if people get upset you are giving them enough notice and they will understand the baby comes first. Your venue may let you move the date. People will be focused on the baby and you don't want him around that many people. You could just get married now and do the wedding in a couple of years.

Cant be married and get the the insurance to cove the pregnancy have to wait till after the baby is born and healthy. is four months after the baby is born enough time

Well first off congrats jaymena. But honestly Im in your same shoes except I already have a dress. So we push the wedding back a couple of months so I can get my weight down and focus on getting our household use to a baby again. Because those first couple of months can be a bit much.

Sorry just seen your question four months is great if you do alot of the planning while your pregnant then you can take three months off to focus on you and baby then go back in to finish the last min details.

Well i hope the same is true for two months. my fiancee likes the date 7-13-14 i was 7 and he was 13 when we met. gives us two months and its still in the summer so the weather should be nice might be too hot but i think we will live.

I'm in your same shoes, and am getting married two months after my baby is born. I have the same dress issues and vendor issues as you, and my FH and I decided we weren't going to wait very long. I am not a first time mom, so I have a definite idea on what to expect, and have decided not to push my wedding way back as some have suggested here. Being a new mother can be stressful, so I think it's best to do what's right for you.

Obviously have a child is more important than having a baby. But I think if planning is done before your baby's arrival, and kept simple, it can all be done. That's my approach. I'd love to be buddy's with you, so we can support eachother...take care!

After a lot of discussion and reading all the comments that gave me even more to consider we ended up changing the date from may 30 to july 13 witch also holds meaning for us. and i kind of like the new date better then the old even with the increase in heat out side i think it should be okay with all the trees. so my baby is a girl and she is due may 11 so we are very excited and look forward to spending the two months with her before the wedding were we get to introduce her to family that would otherwise not be able to meet her. And thank you to everyone that shared there options and stores with me it really did help to make the change. And to D&J. i would love to make a buddy that understands so ya my door to chat is always open

Dear mena&jay My daughter is getting married 10/18/2014 .. 2 months after bub is born due date 08/18/2014 as well in October 2014.. would love to hear how you handled it whether u breastfed at wedding or weaned to bottle im the mob so any other mob's been through it... 1pm wedding 6pm reception.....