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I mean what is their reason for not attending? From your post it sounds like you are just assuming they are declining because they are selfish, but I’d assume there is some reason for the decline.

I’m not sure should I ask them

Is there a reason they are choosing not to attend? A lot of people are choosing not to attend gathers right now because of Covid. Could this be why they aren't attending?

I’m not sure if it’s Covid or not they didn’t say

I wouldn't jump to conclusions. I understand wanting to stand up for your daughter, but if someone is going to be upset about it, perhaps it should be her? Best advice: let it go and put your energy into helping your daughter plan. Most people who have posted on here about finally having their ceremonies have said that they were so swept up in everything on their wedding day and they didn't have time to think about or notice who wasn't there. Don't let it ruin the fun you get to have helping your daughter with her big day.

As the others have said do they give a reason why they're not coming? Even so honestly what is saying something to them going to do? Trust me I have some family members that I don't necessarily care for it sometimes I just want to tell them about themselves. However, I see things this way. If they don't come and they have no valid reason then I feel like your daughter and you know how important you are in their lives and if they need something in the future I would decline or not even offer help. Some people you just need to cut out of your life. However like others have said if they have a reason set of coronavirus or another valid reason to not attend the wedding then you can't fault them for that.

It seems like there’s some pretty critical details missing here.

If they are genuinely that self-absorbed, I would not say anything. You don't want to risk them deciding to come and make it all about them at the wedding.

If the reason they're choosing not to come is something else like covid fears, health issues (including mental health) or financial stress, then I still wouldn't say anything to them. Some reasons may not always make sense hosts, but are genuine concerns for their guests.

More information is needed on this one as to why they've decided not to attend the wedding and whether this is the reason for their 'selfish'-ness, or if there are other things at play here.

I’d stay out of it unless your daughter wants you to say something.

No, of course you shouldn't say anything. An invitation is not a summons.

There is quite literally nothing to be gained from confronting them. And setting aside how much you dislike them personally, no one ever needs to give a reason for declining an invitation. Give yourself (and your daughter) the gift of moving on from this and focusing on the joy of the wedding.

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Good advice people! I’m not going to dwell on it. It’s their loss

Oy........