Brides that didn't do open bar?

I don’t really want to have alcohol at my wedding as I know there are some... potential problems in both of our families. My FH does want to provide alcohol, as he really enjoys beer and whiskey. The problem is, his dad is a BIG drinker, like goes out to the garage right before guests come over and slams 10-15 beers kind of a drinker, (at a small bbq for Labor Day he was doing shots of vodka and red bull before the other 2 people even arrived) and he can get MEAN when he’s drunk. That’s not really something I want at my wedding, so I’m kind of at a loss for what I want to do.

My family And fiancé family are partiers. His family gets together for some kinda party with a dj (cousin) and drinks at least 3 times a year. His fam loves each other and that's what they do. My family fellowships often too. Every single holiday my mom n all her siblings and kids are together. We will have the drinks flowing for our guests.

My venue package included 2 hours of open bar one of which was used as the cocktail hour and the second hour began as soon as the dance floor opened. After that the bar turned into a cash bar however, by that time most if not all of our guests who were drinking had drank alot. My in laws, both mil and fil, were cut off by the bartender before it was even cut off time.

Guests should not have to pay to subsidize your party. If you can't afford an open bar - don't serve alcohol, that totally fine and etiquette approved. Would they let you do a consumption bar where you only actually pay for the drinks consumed vs. a price per person? that's almost always cheaper.

Thank you for all your comments its makes me feel a little better.

My Fiance and I cannot decide if we should do an open bar or just a dessert table.

My venue is charging us 700 dollars for bartenders and we have to provide the alcohol out of our pocket. So it is going to be at least 1,000 plus.

We decided that we could just buy a red and a white for each table and soda as they are not charging us corkage fee.

We are having a 10 course dinner with cake and dessert so hopefully everyone will be full and we are having some kids and my side doesnt drink but my fiance side does. Do you guys think this is ok? I just want my guest to think we cheaped out as my side is coming from out of country being from Canada and Fiance is in California USA.