Brides walking alone

I am doing the exact same thing because my dad is in a wheelchair

I'm considering walking alone too. My aisle isn't that narrow but I'm kinda a) scared one of my parents steps on or rips my dress and b) I kinda want to be the only one my FH is looking at as I walk to him, just a special moment for him and I since we will not be doing a first look or see each other at all that day till the ceremony. I like your idea of having your parents walk and wait at the end to greet you very sweet.

I walked alone. I LOVED it. I felt powerful. Keep your head up, kick your feet so they push your dress out and you'll be fine. If you stumble, just laugh or smile, take it in stride.

My favorite picture from walking alone.

My father and i dont get along at all, so my daughter and future step daughter are walking me down the aisle

Hi Maria,

I like Lisa's thought about being the only one her FS is looking at! The "sweet moment" you mentioned will definitely happen at the end of the walk and then it is showtime!

Conquer that walk!

This sounds like a great idea. Now I'm thinking of doing this🤔🤔

View Quoted Comment I am glad you shared this. I'm walking alone in 2 weeks and still sometimes second guess my decision. Beautiful picture!

Have you talked to your father about this? This may be something he is looking forward to doing and might be upset if he didn't get to do it. If you want to walk alone that's certainly up to you, and I know plenty of people have reasons to walk alone, but I couldn't imagine not wanting my parent (if my parent was able to and there were no issues) to walk with me because they may squish my dress.

I'm not being judgmental about it at all, I just wanted you to consider his feelings about it.

I am considering walking alone also. I also have the same concerns about tripping or being able to completely support myself walking. On the other side I also don't want to risk having my dress stepped on.

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Aww thanks for sharing! It's going to be awesome!

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Wonderful picture! Thanks for sharing! I appreciate the walking tips haha. I think I'm doing this!

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We're also not doing a first look! Yeah I have a train as well, I don't want it to rip. I think my dad would be even more afraid haha.

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Agree with this.

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Thanks Jay! Yeah I think focusing on FS will for sure help with nerves and be more in the moment. Feeling good about this!

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You're both welcome! You'll both rock it!

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ARRRRRGGGHHHH I wrote a really long reply that was kind of cathartic and then by browser crashed!!!! I'm soooo mad!!!! I'm not sure I have the energy or time to recreate it so I apologize.

Basically, I think it's a good idea to call him and talk about it and I'll do so once I click reply. My dad doesn't like weddings or at least not traditional ones and he doesn't really hide it. In the past he's said that his favorite weddings are small courthouse or backyard gatherings which is a fine opinion to have. However the context of these comments were passive aggressive jabs at "materialistic" people who "waste all their money on one day." Since my engagement he's kept these comments to himself which I greatly appreciate. However he's just not sentimental about wedding customs. We love each other and he loves fh, but I can barely get him to pick out a father-daughter dance. It's simply his personality and values go against a lot of the symbolism behind weddings. His friend group is mostly artistic, bohemian, academics ect. and while we were all hanging out, his friends asked me about the wedding. When I mentioned the venue (church and hotel) they looked at my dad playfully and I swear he looked embarrassed-ashamed. It was very uncomfortable and hurtful but not unexpected. Like I said, my preference is to walk with both parents but that is physically impossible. While my mother has been more in the trenches in my life, my dad and I have a good loving relationship and it would be way too loaded a statement to just walk with my mom. I'm still warming up to the idea of meeting them at the altar simply because I don't want to force someone who's insisted on being ambivalent. I'm the first one to gush when someone posts a BAM that has either a first look with their father or the father tearing up as they walk down the aisle, the reality is that's just not my situation. I have to navigate the fact that he just doesn't care as much (which is his right) while making all kinds of decision based on the dilemma: do I force him to do this tradition or do I skip it and risk looking like I'm mad at him or punishing him? It's been an awkward situation to constantly be in. I think meeting both my parents at the altar is sweet, but I'm totally ready to throw that idea away if he seems excited about walking down with me. He's giving a toast and we have our dance so I'm optimistic that he'll know he means a lot to me.

I walked alone. I viewed it as I am walking as an independent woman confident in my choice of partner. I do recommend walking the traditional "bridal march" way where you step, put both feet together, and step again because this creates a more elegant walk especially with your long dress and it helps steady you. I started doing this but then felt like I was going too slow so began to walk normally and it comes off as too fast in the video. Also, it helped to calm my nerves to look at my guests and smile at them since they were my dear friends and family.

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What a beautiful picture, you're radiant! Thanks for the walking tips! I wish I could practice beforehand but it doesn't seem possible with alterations. I can practice in my shoes.

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Thanks! Yes, practice in your shoes. Also, if you're having a rehearsal then you can practice it then. It will seem like you're walking too slow but trust me, it will look regal and elegant to everyone else! I wish I could go back and change this about my walk! Oh well.

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@JustKidding - That picture got me right in the feelings!!

I love it when people walk down the aisle alone! I think there's also some symbolism there - walking down the aisle alone to your future spouse to join hands in marriage.