Brides with divorced families - How did the shower go?

My parents are divorced & both remarried and my shower went fine. Everyone was on their best behavior. I wouldn't worry too much. Enjoy your shower There will be other guests too there to help with any awkwardness.

I am in the same boat! I'll be following this to see what others say!

Everyone in my family is divorced. I invited everyone possible. The people who had emotional issues didn’t show up, and I just had fun with those who did.

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True I'll just focus on the good stuff

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That's great! I'm hoping that my people with issues just won't come, but boy do they love their drama lol. I guess I'll just have to see what happens

I have some family members who don’t get along for various ridiculous reasons 🙄 it causes a lot of stress leading up to what should be happy occasions (like showers, weddings, graduations, etc). But what I’ve found is the larger the group the less of a chance of things blowing up. Everyone has someone to sit with and talk to and can easily avoid the people that they don’t get along with. Make sure that your mom has people there who she’s close with and can hang by, and same goes for your step mom. That way they can just avoid each other but also be distracted by whoever else they’re sitting with.

My dad and stepmom live too far away for them to come to all the pre-wedding events, so that solves itself.

My mother did come, and she behaved.... okay-ish? Her behavior around my dad and stepmom has varied from a MESS to Publicly Polite, but I do my best to never have them in the same city at the same time...

Doesn't matter, she's now not talking to me because of the invites, and has RSVP'd no to the wedding, so...

Assign someone to be on Misbehaving Family Member duty. This person will distract/intervene/kick out those family members who can't grow up enough to be polite in public.

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That's great advice thank you!

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That's a really good idea. And I'm so sorry to hear about your mom! I hate when family BS gets in the way of a good time.

In general, most brides with this type of family drama see their family members "put their differences aside" to celebrate the bride. Or at worst, they just blatantly ignore each other. I had a few people on 'scouting duty' to make sure they behaved, and the scouts had full authority to kick them out if they were acting out.

That being said, if the family members are violent with each other, then don't expect that to suddenly disappear for the day.

My showers haven't happened yet but I can speak from experience on our engagement party/dinner. My FH's parents are divorced and it's a completely mixed bag as far as how his mom is with FFIL's girlfriend. Everyone ended up being so polite to one another and acted as if there wasn't any animosity at all! We are hoping they keep this up for the shower, RD, and wedding.

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That's really good to hear. Thanks for sharing!