Bridesmaid boob job

I'm going to quote Randi on this one, "Her boobs, her body, her business.."

They're probably acting "shocked and appalled" because you're acting "shocked and appalled". I've found people usually respond how they are given the news. What are you looking for us to say, your questions have been answered for the most part already.

@OKD - I love you more everyday. You totally get me.

Unless she shows up in completely disregard for your conservative requests, don't stress over it. I don't think you're overreacting, as others have implied, but I think you're giving it more thought than you need to.

Yeah overreacting.. What if she was just had large boobs from the start? Naturally??? would that make a differnece. Why does it matter that they are fake? Sounds like she planned to make sure she would fit in her outfit.

It sounds like she considered your request to look conservative by ordering a larger dress and waiting until after the surgery to have alterations. Therefore, yes, you're overreacting. Her body, her business. I get it, that it's close to the wedding for a big change suddenly, so it would panic any bride...but just remind yourself, her body, her business.

Would you even have this doubt if it were something besides a boob job?

You're totally overreacting. Not your body, not your business.

That's the thing...I'm not acting shocked and appalled, it's been everyone else's reactions that inspired me to write this post in the first place.

I'm honestly kind of surprised that no one else here would be at least a little concerned that she chose to do this so close to the wedding. I'd be equally concerned if any of my bridesmaids decided to dramatically alter their appearance with less than 4 weeks to go.

Hahahah @ OriginalKD I was trying to think of a clever way to word that. Don't sweat the big stuff even when it gets bigger.

You can't be upset at what someone does to their own body.

Well, I didn't pick my BMs based on how they looked so I would have not cared in the least if they changed their appearance, unless it was something that had a direct impact on her health.

"Dramatically alter their appearance". You asked them to be your bridesmaid because you loved who they are, not how they look.

If you don't care at all, then how can you be overreacting? You're not really making sense. Do you have a pic of the dress? You said you picked a conservative style, so it really shouldn't matter.

ETA you said you found out last week, meaning it was AT LEAST 5 weeks before. That's around when they start to "drop". Also maybe i'm in the minority, but a change from a C to a D isn't a "dramatic alter to their appearance"

Maybe I would buy that you were only concerned about her altering her body drastically so close to the wedding, IF you hadn't felt the need to mention that she already had full Cs and the largest boobs in the family.

To me that just kinda gives the impression you are concerned that her new fancy boobs are going to upstage you. Or that you are upset she got them first since you also want to have yours done one day.

It's already done. And you didn't mention that the surgery went horribly and now she is out of commission for the wedding or something. So it sounds like she's just fine. What's the concern?

Why does this even matter? Whether she got it done a year ago or just getting it done now? It has nothing to do with your wedding? I'm just so confused.

If they voluntarily chopped off their head I would be "shocked and appalled". But a boob job? Nah.

@Nicole - aw! I'm happy to hear that you enjoy my semi-juvenile sense of humor and that you found it moderately 'supportive'

Frank - Legit question, As a bride, why would we be concerned about a BM altering their appearance close to the wedding?

How does this impact you personally, or the wedding?

Exactly what Emmy said

E=mc2/Emily brings up a great point. Going from C to D sounds like a big adjustment, but it really isn't. They'll look a little fuller depending on what she's wearing on any given day, sure, but it's not going to be a drastic change. Promise. This really isn't a big deal.

Boob jobs aren't that big of a deal. Recovery isn't that bad and is pretty quick. Plus, she's not making that crazy of a change - just one cup size. Honestly, you probably wouldn't have even noticed if your brother hadn't said anything to you.