Bridesmaid contract

Ok here's the thing I didn't say I really was going to go thru with it...the problem is if I ask u to be a braidsmaid..I first expect u to keep ur opinions to urself...if u don't like wat I picked for u to wear...then don't waste my time step aside....if they're the people that care for me and has my back...nothing should be a problem if u didn't want to be in it u should have said no thank you.. as far as repeating myself...if I say ur shoes has to be a certain color and u continue to send me picks of shoes like these..that's a nono...ur dress is this....all I want is for them to look elegant..I can't take all the opinion on what u don't like...it gets frustrating...

A contract would not be appropriate and I’m not sure how you’d even enforce that.
People do have opinions on anything, even if they care about you.
They especially Will have opinions if they have to pay for something they don’t like or don’t feel pretty in or they can’t afford. I’d highly recommend talking to bridesmaids, each separately and having a conversation saying your feelings are hurt when they keep hating on your picks. And then, most importantly, listen to what they say in return. Listen to their concerns are some could be very valid. These are your best friends and if they have valid concerns, you should listen.

Also, those shoes are pretty cute and no one will care what shoes they wear because they will be covered by that beautiful gown.

View Quoted Comment Woah. You need to take a breath and back up! This is NOT how a bride should treat her bridesmaids. You’re better off not having bridesmaids at all if you’re treating your friends like this. You are more than welcome to have a vision for your wedding! But you need to take your bridesmaids budgets and comfort level into account before demanding things. Maybe they aren’t comfortable with that dress? You should be able to have those conversations. If they don’t have shoes like that, you should be able to listen to them and talk about cheaper or different options. If you’re going to be demanding, not having bridesmaids might be the best option for you.

It's all good it's our day and that's all that matters

Girl I have worked dozens of weddings and I've only heard of this once- on the show Bridezillas 😅 I think they're in poor taste. It makes it seem like the bride thinks the bridesmaids are subservient people. They are friends and should be treated as such!

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I really think you need to give yourself some time out to recompose yourself and rethink your expectations of your bridesmaids.

All bridesmaids have to do is rock up to the wedding in the dress you’ve picked and support you, and sure, you have final say in the gown, but I can guarantee you that your bridesmaids will be much happier if you actually listen to what they have to say, or at the very least consider such. You also need to be reasonable in what you expect of them – I can tell you as someone who has very sensitive feet, there is no way I would necessarily be able to find shoes that I could actually wear if a bride dictated to me that they had to be X colour, and I would be mortified if someone forced me to wear shoes that would blister me to the point of bleeding purely because of the colour.

I hate to say it but you will most definitely come across as being a bridezilla if you do not give any consideration to your bridesmaids’ questions/queries/comments (within reason) let alone force them to sign a contract because you don’t want to listen to what they have to say. I would probably end a friendship with someone over that.

View Quoted Comment With that attitude, you might end up losing your friendships. I’d definitely take a time out and relax.

People get to have opinions on what will be on their body, let alone what they will be spending money on. If you don't like dealing with people's opinions, hire models to stand up in your wedding. You're heading into bridezilla territory.

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The day does not belong to you. You're getting married, not being crowned queen of the universe. If you don't want to take anyone else's preferences, comfort, or opinions into consideration, elope.

View Quoted Comment This is always such a weird stance to me. Don’t these girls mean anything to you? Sure, you’re getting married, but putting that fact above all else in these friendships is likely to cause you to lose friends. And no it won’t be because they did something wrong. It will be because your short-sightedness put a single day ahead of whatever relationship you have with these other women.

View Quoted Comment Ty for ur opinion but no thank u

So everyone has the right to their opinion....but at this point I don't want it I ask a yes r no question I didn't ask for negative energy...and to Vicky my wedding is day my day...so u have a blessed evening

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Your issues with your bridesmaids stem from the fact that you don’t like people voicing any opinion whatsoever, just as you are now calling people out for giving you some honest and reasonable advice.

If you want a yes or no answer then ask questions which would dictate such a response.

“Am I being unreasonable with my expectations?” – “Yes”

“Should I have my bridesmaids sign a contract so they don’t give me their opinions anymore” – “No”.

You can’t ask people to not comment on your post. I seriously suggest you ask your bridesmaids you step down due to your unreasonable expectations and hire models to stand in instead. Or elope with your fiancé. You’re going to end up losing friendships. You’re wedding day is going to be incredibly special with or without your demanding your bridesmaids buy a certain type of shoe. I truly hope you see that before you ruin your friendships. Everyone is entitled to share their opinions and asking your closest friends to silence them because you don’t want it heat it anymore is wrong.

You'd hope, right?!

If you’re expecting them to wear a specific dress, shoes, etc, you should be paying for it. You can’t expect people to be paying for things they don’t want to wear:

I think this would take the "friendship" out of the "job" and make it seem too business-y. Not a fan.

No! Never! If I was a bridesmaid and the bride asked me to sign a contract, I would politely back out of the wedding. Bridesmaids are asked to stand up next to you because they are your closest friends, not so they can sign a contract to be bossed around by the bride.

That sounds like an adversarial approach to a wedding party.
What sort of things would be included?
Binding contracts need to have consideration offered, so some sort of payment or benefit has to be gained for both parties. There also needs to be terms for breaking the contract.I get having a contract with a vendor, but a bridesmaid?