Bridesmaid contract

I absolutely recommend having a conversation about expectations with your bridesmaids BEFORE they agree to be your bridesmaids. Different people have different ideas about what a bridesmaid is responsible for, so its important for you and your bridesmaids to be on the same page.

I would not create a contract at all though. Its impersonal and formal and does not have a place between brides and their wedding party (unless you do a bridesmaids-for-hire bit, then you absolutely should have a contract in place).

That's why I don't have many bridesmaids. I only have a matron of honor and one bridesmaid. I couldn't be bothered with all the BS. Good luck to you.

You posted on a public forum; you don't get to tell people how to respond.

View Quoted Comment Wow. After reading this, I can kind of understand why members of your wedding party are not responding to you and have blocked you. If I were you, I would take this as a learning opportunity. Everyone here (completely nonobjective strangers) is telling you your attitude and methods are completely inconsiderate. Many of your posts here center around you complaining about your wedding party. At least one member of your wedding party is blocking you from communicating with them. The one common denominator here is YOU. I would highly suggest reevaluating how you are treating the people who are supposed to be your nearest and dearest friends. You are a bride to be...not a dictator, not queen of the universe.

It can be incredibly frustrating when the people closest to you can't seem to care about something that matters to you. I know this may not be what you had hoped for, but have you considered not having a wedding party? I think things will become much more manageable when you don't have to "round people up", so to speak. And you'll save so much money on dresses, wedding party gifts, etc.

Everyone is saying a bridesmaids only job is to show up for dress fittings and on the wedding day. I disagree, I would like my bridesmaids involved in my planning and go out to brunch, plan together for shower and bachelorette, etc. bridesmaids comes with responsibilities. Every bride feels different about what they would like . I think a contract is a bit much and might scare people , but a clear explanation of expectations in the beginning should be sufficient .

I totally understand getting frustrated. Honestly, as a bridesmaid several times, I found so many of my friends to be overbearing as well - so a contract would only make that worse. I just decided a few weeks ago to do away with our wedding party all together. No one had purchased a dress or gotten fitted for a suit, its more stress than I need.

View Quoted Comment Thank you that's all I'm saying

I was reading the comments. I wouldn’t make a contract. Best to talk it out to all of them at the same time. So you don’t have to repeat yourself. I only had a MoH I didn’t want anyone else. I would’ve stood on my own if I knew you could. She held my flowers help fixed my train. That’s really all she did. I would just suggest a best friend or sisters. If you want 6-7 or something like that well that’s going to give you a headache. Not worth the stress and the contract will hurt your friendships that’s not worth it.


If you need another ear you can send me a message. Sometimes talking it out helps.

Hello I gave that idea to my daughter who is the Maid of Honor so she can have that headache and not me.

If spreadsheets can’t keep them organized and they’re not there for YOU, just remove them from the wedding! Unruly wedding party is not an added stress you need on your special day!

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That's a good way to blow up the relationships in your life.

View Quoted Comment Right! It really depends on how she feels about the situation! I have a small circle as is and truly try my best to keep any sort of toxic relationships out of my life! So to me, depending on how bad their behavior is, it might be worth cutting ties to me honestly.

View Quoted Comment I dont see anything wrong with the shoes especially since its a long dress. No one will be looking at her shoes let alone be able to see them. This is the reason why I told my girls the requirement for the dresses were floor length so I didn’t have to worry about the shoes. As far as the dress, some people will not feel comfortable in all styles of dresses. If your BM is really uncomfortable I would try to figure out what the issue is vs saying if you dont like it you can leave. One of my BMs was self conscious about her big bust. We were able to order a larger size for her so that she wont have any spillage, she will just need alterations in the hips.
Ask come up with a list of reminders that you are tired of repeating then hand it to your MOH And let her talk to all the BMs. Think to yourself if you are being reasonable in all your requests. And figure out if you are willing to be lenient on some of them. But you shouldn’t cut your BMs if they have already bought their dress unless they can get a refund.

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There is no evidence that these people have done anything worth cutting ties.

View Quoted Comment Which is why I said “it really depends on how she feels about the situation.”