Bridesmaid Details Proposal Template!

If you didn't do that, that is fine. I was just looking for cute stuff to add to the box that would give them all information because they live so far. These are my BEST friends we are talking about and they all already know they are going to be my bridesmaids anyhow as we've been friends forever and they have all already offered their help to me & I would never ask! I was just looking for inspiration to give them ideas so they could bounce ideas with me as well too. Thank you to those who weren't rude about it . To those who expect that I was giving them jobs or expecting them to do a million things for me- I would never, thanks again.

I got my girls a card that said "Will you be my bridesmaid" and something about champagne

And a champagne flavored cupcake

thats it.

@Lauren B- Champagne flavored cupcake?!? How awesome!!

I didn't even know they made champagne flavored cupcakes. That sounds awesome! Might spoil in the mail though. Great idea!

What do you think they need to know that an invitation will not tell them?

Don't stress it Starleigh - there are many, many popular wedding details others do that I think are way over the top. Only you know your girls, if you think it's a cute fun surprise - go for it.

Others may think it's over the top - and that's their opinion! Every bride puts their time and effort into different details!

Can't please em' all. :-)

@JoRocka, well for starters an invitation won't tell them that I'd love to treat them to a brunch on the day of.. That if they do say yes, that we can all meet up and I will arrange for us to go to hotel the night before all together. The colors and story of how i picked the venue with my fiance.. An appreciation letter and how much it means to me that they would consider being my bridesmaid. I think everyone has a different style, I have always been a gift giver & sentimental and they all know that about me. I don't think it's a bad thing at all & wasn't doing this to delegate tasks. It was all about how grateful I was to even have friends to consider like this for my big day. I knew and had seen others who had done it and shared templates- but I couldn't find any so was asking for help is all. An invitation isn't tailored to a bridal party, more so to everyone. Thats all.

Also, I can't figure out how to get a pic on here!

@thefuturemrsallen couldnt have said it better myself @starleigh to change your avatar you have to do it from a computer I believe. I know you cant do it from the app.

Starleigh, you either need to do this from a desktop computer or on the browser on your phone (not on the app)

Go to Settings --> Profile and Privacy Settings > Account Image > Change Image > Upload > Update Profile Settings.

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/welcome-new-users-faq-lingo-and-guidelines/736e1073af1a0860.html

Thank you Angela!

I think what you have planned so far is great. I'd send that and then do a followup news letter type thing with all the extra details and maybe a story about you and each girl. You can send that info once they have said yes to you.

I simply took a series of pictures with words on a paper asking them to be my BM or MOH. Since my JBM were our kids I got them a cute little box with a ring pop asking them to be my JBM. Text the pictures to the BM or MOH and gave the ring pops to the kids when they were down visiting. The bridal party doesn't have roles at all.

"well for starters an invitation won't tell them that I'd love to treat them to a brunch on the day of.. "

no- you can do that through an email- or word of mouth.

"That if they do say yes, that we can all meet up and I will arrange for us to go to hotel the night before all together."

Again- logistical coordination way to soon and not needed at this point and can be done in far more efficient means.

"The colors and story of how i picked the venue with my fiance."

No one cares

" An appreciation letter and how much it means to me that they would consider being my bridesmaid."

An appreciation letter for them to 'consider'? It sounds like a guilt letter- it's not required. nice- but not required.

" I think everyone has a different style"

That is very accurate.

" I have always been a gift giver & sentimental and they all know that about me."

So give them a gift- to much is to much and it makes people think the worst.

" I don't think it's a bad thing at all & wasn't doing this to delegate tasks."

That's exactly what it sounds like though.

" It was all about how grateful I was to even have friends to consider like this for my big day."

So just say that.

"An invitation isn't tailored to a bridal party, more so to everyone."

Yeah- but expectations of the bridal party are not for them to have to show and do extra things if they aren't interested. you layout a big spread and a letter and roles and delegating things- people get uncomfortable but then feel guilty.

Just tell them how special they are to you and how much it would mean if they stood by you on your big day.

That truly is all. it doesn't have to be more than that. in fact- in this case- less is definitely more.

I know this is an old thread, but it's still popping up on Google... SO. Here's my thoughts.

I like the idea of those little detail cards because the first question MORE than half of my maids asked is "What do you need me to do?". If I clearly state their role or duties are to make sure we're all living in the moment, being the point of contact with crazy overburdening family members, and hold my dress while I pee then 1. They'll get a laugh and 2. They'll be put at ease knowing there really isn't much "work" for them.

You probably don’t even check this anymore seeing as it’s so out of date, but I needed this post and found it on google.


I am so sorry that you asked what seemed to be a very current (even now) question and received so much negative feedback that you didn’t ask for. Especially during a time that is supposed to be so exciting! You clearly love your girls and are excited to plan. Yes, some people would be scared away from the amount of details and that feedback is legitimate but could have been done in a tactful and supportive way.
You know your girls better than anyone here and I think you got a couple of people with good images...at least it helped me with the verbiage. I know my girls will be asking how they can help and even though I haven’t asked are already hinting at being the wedding. So, I will be specific about things they can do for the big day like one will have a emergency bridal kit the day of, my matron of honor (is already panicked to figure out how she can help me as much as I helped her) so I’m asking if she will be responsible for checking in with the girls on ordering dresses in time, etc. I’ll include some of these beautiful details that others have provided you here and then was inspired by some of what I’m attaching below.
Let’s support one another and be kind ♥️