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Just Said Yes November 2021

Bridesmaid dilemma

Caren, on August 14, 2021 at 1:08 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 5
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Hey everyone! I hope you’re well and keeping safe! I got engaged 2 years ago and we popped the proposal question out to our bridal party. My husband to be has his best friend as his best man and 2 brothers as his groomsmen. I have my best friend as my maid of honour, cousin and close friend as bridesmaids. I have bought the bridesmaid dresses and my close friend has tried hers on and was really excited for me, she showed for 30 mins to our engagement party and I have only met up with her once last year (she wanted to collect her engagement present and birthday present from me) and I haven’t seen her since. We text but that’s it.


She just had her 3rd child a couple months back and now she is ignoring all my texts (I haven’t sent many, I sent one saying I paid the rest of her hen money as I didn’t want her struggling after her baby, I asked if she could tell me a date she was free for her dress alterations and if she wanted to tag along for my own dress fitting). I have been ignored and she has blocked my husband to be on Facebook and removed me on Instagram. I have tried phoning her but she doesn’t pick up. Her fiancé wished me a happy birthday last month and then deleted the message. I am so confused and time is getting on and I am stressed out.
Has anyone else experienced this? What should j do? On one hand I want to give her space and time and I think giving her a week to respond to my phone call (to which I left a voicemail) but on the other hand blocking my husband to be has created a wedge and potentially a bit awkward on the wedding day (if she turns up).
Appreciate anyone’s help, I am so stressed.

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Latest activity by Jacks, on August 14, 2021 at 10:13 PM
  • Candace
    Super March 2022
    Candace ·
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    I only ask this because you mentioned social media, but are you on opposite sides of politics? Past couple of years have been so divisive and I've had a few friends drop away because of our opposing views - it's very sad. Otherwise, having a third baby definitely adds to stress and having zero time or capacity for other things... But that doesn't explain why she's blocked you. So sorry you're going through this. Maybe you should try calling her or calling her husband, and asking straight out?
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    Just Said Yes November 2021
    Caren ·
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    Hey love, honestly no. We have always been so close and it’s so out of character for her being like this. I have tried calling her and her fiancé but none of them respond. I totally appreciate having kids and work, time is very short but this has been weeks, maybe a month now and it’s only 4 weeks until my hen weekend (which I paid half of the money for her). It’s so unusual!
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  • Jm Sunshine
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    It sounds as though perhaps you have offended her in some way and it's her way of saying she no longer wants to be a part of your day. Either that or maybe she's struggling with postpartum depression and/or perhaps weight gain (especially with pandemic on top of it) and is dealing with some personal issues.
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  • Natalie
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    Think back to the last time you saw or spoke to her and things seemed “normal.” Could you have said or done something that may have hurt or offended her? Did your fiancé? I would assume it would have been around the time of the engagement party or your last meeting. Have you reached out to her for things besides the wedding? It seems like this isn’t necessarily a “growing apart” thing but a falling out of sorts since she has unfriended/blocked the two of you. Are there any mutual friends who might be able to give you more insight on this? I would definitely not count on her to attend your pre-wedding or wedding events, as she seems to have abruptly ended the friendship.
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  • Jacks
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    This sounds like a friend problem even more than a wedding problem. Sounds like she's making distance from you. Are you sure you haven't offended her? I mean in certain respects it makes sense, she's a busy mother of three. However, the unfriending business is out of the ordinary.

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