Bridesmaid doesn’t want to travel cross country

I am an August bride. We are not making a decision until probably early June. If the friend hasn’t said anything, I would assume it’s still on. We have no idea what the next few months will hold, so she probably doesn’t know yet.

As a Bride currently planning my wedding I know it can be EXTREMELY stressful. Your concerns are very valid and I hope that the happy couple are taking everything under consideration. Find out if there's a maid or matron of honor or planner and get updates from them. That way it's one less person stressing out the already stressed bride and you can still be up to date on everything.

View Quoted Comment I'm in the same boat .. I agree. I think covid has made most brides realize the importance, marrying the love one and starting a new life!

I’m a bride and I have actually postponed twice. Finally now it’s next July and it was the best decision to make. I think it’s not fair for the bride to not be keeping you in the loop especially because this is national news and of course everyone is thinking the same thing. What is her plan. You are in the wedding. You aren’t just a guest. I have asthma too and many people in my family have health issues. No way would I jeopardize my family’s health or my own for a wedding. Family and health is the top priority. My day is not. I could never ask to have a big party/have my dear family get on a plane and have people become sick. If someone decides to have an intimate ceremony then change it and let others know that their presence is not what’s most important but marrying their partner is. I’m also in healthcare and in the northeast where things have been extreme so I see things a different way. Please stay safe and do what is best for your health. At the end of the day your safety is the top priority.

As a bride who cares for others I immediately thought of my guests safety first with that being said though also as a bride I would have not have appreciated people asking me what I was doing unless I reached out first it is such a stressful time for us brides and we don’t want that added pressure. I am the type of person who keeps my bridal party in the loop about everything because it’s respectful and I would want someone to do that for me this way I don’t have to worry about what their doing because it’s not fair to put that pressure on the bride. My best advice is to check in and see how she’s doing emotionally this has taken a a toll on everyone but especially for a bride trying to do what’s right but also at the end of the day it’s about the couple and what they decide. I reached out and asked for opinions from my bridal party it helped me make my decisions but everyone is different and it is about what the couple wants to do at the end of the day. I am eloping on my date and my friends and family understand if they cannot be there and I will certainly make sure I celebrate with them down the road if my vow renewal doesn’t work out. But like I said just reach out and see how she’s doing and I’m sure the conversation will flow from there.