Bridesmaid doesn't want to wear makeup?

Maybe a compromise could be her taking the makeup off as soon as the ceremony and pictures are done?

But if she refuses even that but what are you going to do? You aren't going to kick her out of the bridal party right? If she keeps refusing you may need to let this go.

Respect her choice and let it go.

For the weddings that I was a bridesmaid in, I only had some makeup done (really just eye makeup), though makeup wasn't ever required. Another compromise could be that she doesn't get full makeup done, but instead just a little bit? Let her choose what makeup gets put on? Otherwise, if she is adamantly against it, I wouldn't try to force her.

I’d let it go.

I think your bridesmaid is being ridiculous and should get over herself. She will wear makeup for what, a couple of hours at most. It is a wedding, a formal occasion and she is in the bridal party. Bridesmaids wear dresses and shoes they normally wouldn't wear, wear their hair in ways they wouldn't normally do.

Wearing makeup is a minor ask, especially as she isn't paying for it. I would tell her to suck it up. It is only for your wedding day, you aren't asking her to wear makeup for ever, or asking her to change her personality.

I think you should just let it go. I have never been in a wedding where makeup was required.

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I'm letting the bridesmaids choose their own makeup looks. I just want some eye makeup done and maybe foundation or concealer.

I think she should respect your wishes. She's only having it done for a day and can take it off once the wedding is done. It isn't a change in her appearance that will take days or hours to undo.

I totally get you. Maybe look at pics of minimal make up with her nd have her choose something she would be ok with. Like a "no make up" look. Just so she doesn't look like she just woke up and washed her face in your pics.

I would let it go. If she’s uncomfortable with makeup on then you certainly don’t want to force someone to wear it.

If your force her to wear makeup will she look unhappy in pictures the whole time?

Please let it go. Presumably, you asked her to be a bridesmaid because you value her friendship and not because she looks good in pictures. I had an unhealthy relationship with makeup in the past, using it as a crutch to hide my acne (without actually treating it) and my insecurities. A few years ago, I stopped to let my skin heal and it's been great feeling confident and "good enough" without it. If someone I considered a friend asked me to wear makeup despite my decision not to, I would feel insulted and interpret that as "you need to look better than you do naturally for my pictures."

I would let it go. Not everyone is comfortable wearing makeup. My sister-in-law wore very minimal makeup for our wedding and I think she looked beautiful even without a ton of makeup.

Definitely let it go. I can’t imagine forcing a friend to wear makeup (or do anything) if they don’t want to.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. The bridesmaid shouldn't have to wear a full face if she doesn't want to, but foundation and maybe a little mascara and lip gloss she should be able to agree to.

Compromise with her. Tell her it’s just for the ceremony & pics. She can take it off after the pics.

Maybe compromise? See if she’ll wear some makeup, mascara and lip gloss or maybe just some foundation to even skin tone. While it may seem a little sill to not wear it for a nice event, I wouldn’t Insist she wear a full face if she’s not comfortable.
If she doesn’t agree to a compromise let it go. Day of she may even change her mind when she sees her hair done and every one else getting theirs done.

This is the one time where I would put my foot down, and at least ask her to put on a little makeup, even if its just mascara. During my wedding, three out of five bridesmaids never and I mean NEVER wear makeup, but since they knew it was for a wedding, they decided to get out of their comfort zone and wear some for me. Honestly, they looked so good, even my mother in law commented how my bridesmaids were just glowing!

I would let it go. As I’ve seen stated here many times... your bridesmaids are not photo props. This is a human being (and one I’m assuming you are very close to if she is in your wedding party), who has already compromised her comfort for you by wearing a dress and dressy flats, and having her hair done. She has said she doesn’t feel comfortable wearing makeup. I think it’s time for you to be a good friend and compromise with her in return.

Yes, you’re being unreasonable. There’s absolutely no reason that a woman should be expected to wear makeup, or anything else that makes her uncomfortable, just because it’s a “formal event.” This is actually so rude and disrespectful.