Bridesmaid drama

Talk to her about how you feel and if she seems to not care then don't invite her to your wedding

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That would likely ruin the relationship with her sister.

I am having similar struggles with my best friend (well..not so BEST anymore). She was originally gonna be my MOH, but the last couple of years, she hasnt been a very good friend, and in the last year, i wouldnt say we spoke much at all. If i do not make her a brides maid than that will prpbablt mark the end of our friendship..and i dont want that. but everyone is saying i should not make her a bridesmaid. what do i do? What do YOU do? this is you special day and i believe you should be real with her and ask her to be real back. write her a note if you think you wont be able to say what you want to say. she cant cut you off or change the subject if its written on paper!

View Quoted Comment That's a tough one. I completely understand not wanting to end the friendship but if you're the only one putting in effort then is the friendship beneficial to you anymore? Has your planning of the wedding put a wedge in your relationship? Have you talked to her about being a bridesmaid?

View Quoted Comment Thank you I've been considering this

View Quoted Comment You're absolutely correct. I can't expect people to care and I need to get out of that mindset. I appreciate your advice!

This wedding stuff brings out the worst in people. Which makes no sense to me since life can also be so cold and cruel so we really should be celebrating the happy times extra.

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Well she used to be my best friend. Her and i hung out multiple times a week and than after about 2 years, she began canceling on me, not making the effort to come visit me, not making effort to hang out, nothing. She would judge me for not being a party girl and judged me for trying to keep a sleep schedule. About a year ago she pretty much cut me off for the most part. I have seen her twice in the last year and i had to come to her. Now she has a baby and is married (i didnt know about this until a few weeks later..) and we never really talk anymore. She doesnt even invite me over. I am struggling to be honest in terms of being in my wedding. I have been engaged for a month now and she hasnt spoken to me at all

View Quoted Comment I feel like I have been pretty laid back on everything. I didn't care what style dress as long as it was plum. I told them they could wear whatever shoes they wanted, whatever they are comfortable in- doesn't matter the style or color- my daughter is wearing converse and my step sister is wearing flip flops lol I know how frustrating it ca be trying to find specific things/colors and I just want them to be comfortable and not miserable all day. I'm starting to realize that my issue is just not having my sister care/be involved as much as I would like her to and I can't change that. I appreciate your advice and thank you for taking the time to respond ❤️

View Quoted Comment Bam! Plain and simple! Thank you ❤️

View Quoted Comment I couldn't agree with you more! I thought for sure this would bring us closer together but it's doing the complete opposite!

View Quoted Comment Did she invite you to her wedding? It really sounds like it's a one sided relationship and you're struggling emotionally with it and she seems to not care at all?

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No she did not. I did not know she even was getting married. I did not know until the deed was done. I think you are right, she doesnt deserve to be my bridesmaid..

Did you figure out everything with your sister?

I know it’s hard because you would be happy for her. And you’re hurt by her behavior. But the truth of the matter is she’s stealing your joy. Just let her know at this point it’s better if she’s a guest if that. These things bring out people’s true colors.

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It sounds like she's just being difficult then for no reason. I'm so sorry. My sister was very difficult as well so I completely get where you are coming from. I hope your wedding turns out to be everything you have dreamt

Take her out to lunch and have a heart to heart

Friends come and go, family don’t. Think of the photos. Don’t let her jealousy change you and don’t let it affect your wedding. It’s draining you mentally and this should all be your happiest period. If you can’t trust that on the day of she will be helpful add another maid of honor. You can have two

View Quoted Comment Awwee I'm sorry that your sister was difficult too! Thank you for the well wishes ❤️

View Quoted Comment That is perfect! Thank you so much for that 💓

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