Bridesmaid dress issues

While she really should have discussed this with you rather than springing it on you last minute that she went with a similar but different dress, and while I'm sure that had to be annoying, I would let it go. For one thing, it was your responsibility to consult everyone on budget, which should have been discussed ahead of time. Any dress that would have required her to save up for months was likely an unreasonable ask.

Bottom line is the dress will coordinate well, and except for you, I promise no one will care. It would have likewise been considerate of her to be upfront about budget concerns and give you the chance to offer to pay the difference or come up with another alternative, but maybe she didn't think you'd be receptive. Again, I'd try to put it behind you.

You’re completely justified in being surprised and annoyed. If your sister was needing to purchase a different dress, she definitely should have discussed it with you first, rather than just making the decision to change it on her own. That was inconsiderate of her. Unfortunately, what’s done is done at this point. I would just accept it for what it is and move on. There’s no use making yourself miserable over a dress. At the end of the day, she will always be your sister and the memories you will share at your wedding will far outweigh the dress she’s wearing.

If you're not close with your sister, why did you ask her to be in your WP? Or rather if she's not close to you, then why would you expect that she would tell you any earlier than 3 weeks before? If you cut her for tainting your perfection, then know you must reimburse her for the dress. So maybe it's better that it's the cheaper version??

So I had something kind of but not really similar happen to me a week before my wedding. My sister (MOH) decided she hated everything about the dress I picked. I picked one dress for all of the girls to be in. We had all gone shopping together and she said she liked the dress. Turned out she lied because she didn't want to keep shopping. She was refusing to wear the dress. I went into full panic mode since it was literally 7 days prior to my wedding. I ended up buying her a different dress on the rake from David's Bridal. The original dress was also from David's Bridal so it was the exact same color just a different style. Depending on where the dress is from is it possible to order the correct dress and have it in time?

View Quoted Comment $150 for a dress they’ll be able to wear again because the color is black? My only problem really is since it’s MY wedding it should’ve been ran by my first! Nobody said a word when I brought the dress into the chat and they know that I am the most considerate person so if they couldn’t afford it I would’ve helped in any way possible.

I totally agree it should have been run by you first. The price was not unreasonable, either. But again no one is going to notice or care and at this point it’s done and not worth making a fuss about.

I would be really upset if this happened to me. I would let my sister know how disappointed I was in her for not seeking my input first… but then I would do everything possible to get over it. No one else will be upset about this or care. She is your sister and that is what is most important. Don’t let this issue eat up anymore of your time and energy. It is truly going to be ok.