For some context, my cousin is getting married in 2 weeks. She is having a more intimate ceremony/reception this year and having a full vow renewal/reception next year due to covid. Both events are 6+ hours from where I live and would require an overnight stay. I am supposed to be a bridesmaid.
My cousin texted me today to let me know that due to covid restrictions my husband is no longer invited to the smaller ceremony and reception in a few weeks. I completely understand this is a tough situation no one can control. With that being said, I tried to be very thoughtful in my response and let her know I will not be comfortable driving over 12 hours and staying overnight in a hotel by myself, so I will not be able to attend the smaller ceremony this year, but cannot wait until next year to celebrate with them.
I don’t hear back from her, then about an hour later I get a call from my Mom telling me my Aunt had called her freaking out asking, “Why is your daughter always so self centered, not caring about the most important day of her cousin’s life?” What??? So I reach out to my cousin to see what is going on and she freaked out on me and told me I was ruining her pictures because now they are going to have uneven sides and doesn’t understand how I can be so selfish 2 weeks before the wedding. She then proceeds to tell me that if I choose to not come this year, I will no longer be a part of the bridal party next year (there goes a $200 dress down the drain & did I mention I had already purchased a SECOND dress for this mini ceremony?)
Now my Mom won’t speak to her Mom and this seems to be getting out of control. I’m not willing to budge on attending this ceremony by myself that I was already apprehensive about going to with everything going on.
Do I contact her again in a few days to see if she has simmered down? Do I wait until after the wedding is over and see how she is feeling then? Does anyone else think this is as ridiculous as I do?
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