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Bridesmaid gone mia

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Maria, on January 28, 2019 at 9:50 AM

So I have asked a really good high school friend to be a bridesmaid and she said yes. But these past few weeks she hasn’t responded to any texts from
me or my maid of honor. We are having an engagement dinner in March and going to look at bridesmaid dresses. She hasn’t responded about being able to go or anything. Maid of honor thinks it might be best to cut ties with her, if she isn’t making an effort now who’s to say she won’t do this for the bridal shower or wedding. Has anyone else has to cut someone from their bridal party

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Mim · on January 28, 2019 at 2:07 PM
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I've seen it way too many times, from both the bride and bridesmaid perspective. Women get engaged and stop thinking about their loved ones as friends or family, but only bridesmaids. They suddenly expect the dynamics of their relationships to change.

Sending some texts or making phone calls that go unanswered shouldn't have anyone thinking, "maybe I should cut her out if my special day". Rather it should lead to someone actively seeking out the loved one to find out what is going on. Ask others if they've heard from them. If need be go to their home.

People's lives continue on once there is an engagement. Sometimes small things, other times huge things happen. When a bride-to-be is stuck in wedding world, it's too often really difficult to be real with her. Loved ones take a step or four back from the relationship. From there things can get really ugly. That's why I recommend that women take the time and effort to find out what is going on. If that seems like too much to handle, then it's probably best all around to end the friendship. That way the people involved don't continue trying to get something from the other that just isn't going to happen
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