I'm getting married October 2020 and have 7 bridesmaids who are all confirmed on board with being in the wedding, so I started a GroupMe over the weekend and asked everyone to introduce themselves. 5/7 did.
Now I'm wondering - when and how do I bring up planning-related stuff? The major things I need to get worked out are:
1) Bridesmaid dresses. They need to pick 1 of 3 colors and a style and order it by, I'm thinking, June 1st.
2) We're thinking of renting a house for the wedding party. I'd like to ask them if they want to stay in it and if they are willing to contribute (it would likely be $50-$100 for the weekend, which I think is reasonable). I'd like to get this booked by Feb/March
3) Do they want hair and makeup services. I'm not planning to pay for this but I'm not requiring it either. This factors into my own H/M plans so it might be helpful to know what they are thinking. I'm willing to message the privately about this as well.
So to avoid inundating them, how and when do I bring this stuff up? It's super early, but I'm a planner and I like to have my ducks in a row.
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Also - I know this is controversial, but I wasn't planning to ask their budgets since I can't really find cheaper options than what I'm presenting them. I'm asking them to buy BM dresses ($90-$120 if bought new, less than that if bought secondhand), the $50-$100 for the house IF they want to stay in it/else their own accommodations, and maybe $100-$150 for a camp weekend for the bachelor/bachelorette party (I know they plan it, but FI and I were hoping to do a combined party at a state park), and then whatever gas money to drive 3-4 hours to the wedding location. Not expecting gifts, no required shoes, jewelry, hair/makeup, etc., no flights anywhere, I am out of state from them so idk if there will even be a shower. I feel like this is fair?