Bridesmaid hair and makeup

If you expect them to have their hair and make up professionally done then you need to pay for it.

If you want them to look a certain way you need to pay to have it done for them.

As PP said- if you're requiring professional hair and make up then you pay for it.

Everything PP said. If you want hair and makeup done a specific way, you pay.

If you want them to have their hair and makeup professionally done, you can pay for it.

Do you have at least one friend who is good at makeup? Maybe you can get them to help the bridesmaids.

If not and you aren't willing to pay for professionals, just give them simple guidelines. Like all low bun and pink eyeshadow with wings. It will be ok if they aren't perfect. Try not to stress over it.

PPs nailed it. If you’re requiring professional hair or makeup because you want a cohesive look, you should pay. Otherwise, find a friend who can do it or just let them do their own in a basic style. No one will notice if their make-up style is a little different.

You're requiring it, you pay for it. Solves all the problems and is often considered the proper ettiquite for this situation.

I've never had a bride dictate a particular hairstyle or look for makeup.

Then pay for it.

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I agree. If it was optional, each BM could pay for their own

As others have said, if you are requiring a particular style you should be footing the bill.

However, I will say no one will care how the bridesmaid's hair/make up looks. Yes, pictures last a lifetime, but the ones that really matter are the ones with you and your partner.

If you want you pay.

Plus not everyone looks good in same hairstyle and same makeup. So if you did pick the same look someone will look bad.

We aren’t requiring it. I definitely don’t trust myself with hair and make up but a few of my girls who want to do it themselves, actually dona good job so I’m not worried if they look “basic” with their everyday make up. I also gave them a color dress and as long as they like it, and everyone looks good together I’m fine. We are so tight on money that I can’t afford to pay for their hair and make up and dresses. Because of that, the hair and make up is up to them if they don’t wanna pay. Same with the dresses since they are paying for it I’m not gonna be strict especially because not everyone is comfortable or looks good in the same style and you really don’t want someone in your wedding who looks super uncomfortable and embarrassed because they don’t like whatever you decided to pick for them because it’s not who they are. Money can be hard these days. I live pay check to pay check in all honestly and that’s why I can’t put people under that kinda financial stress. The girls aren’t expected to give wedding gifts either since they are paying for their dresses. I have a maid of honor who lives at home with our mom still, my mom is paying almost everything so any money my sister needs for pre wedding stuff comes from my mom, my matron of honor is comfortable but also has 3 kids, a house and all that and is buying not only her dress but her daughter who is a Junior bridesmaid and she’s hosting our engagement party at her house with some help from my mom and sister. My two bridesmaids who are adults, one is in NC and still in college so she has hardly any spending money and the other bridesmaid is getting married in March and also had a kid and stuff so. You never really know if someone is struggling ( I would say no to being a bridesmaids unless it was paid for) simply because I’d go broke, and I don’t expect everyone to go broke on my wedding day. It isn’t supposed to be selfish because it’s “our day” but it is selfish because you want your closest people with you that day standing by your side to feel confident and excited and to have a really good time and not worry so much about they will manage expenses. Everyone is different. I’m picky but also very flexible with good reasons. If they cannot afford something like hair and make up, then you have to pay or just let it kinda be because you may be putting stress on them and that’s gonna end in a train wreck somehow because having scared and stressed out bridesmaids isn’t going to be helpful at all!
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I don’t care what anyone on here says. Either you pay for heir H MU if you can afford it or pay for one and have them pay for the other. Give them enough notice in regards to time and be mindful of how much this will cost them

If you require a specific style, you have to pay for it to be done. That's why a lot of brides let bridesmaids choose their own style, then they aren't required to pay for it.

Thanks for all your opinions! I had told everyone from the beginning that I couldn’t pay for all of theirs because I have 8 bridesmaids and that would break the bank esp because me and my fiancé are paying for our own wedding with no family help. I even told them they’d have to pay for their own expenses and if they couldn’t afford it I would understand if they couldn’t be in it but they all committed so I kinda feel like we’ll you committed and you knew what I was going to want so how is that fair to me now?