Bridesmaid in another state.

She has already told me she will be here for my wedding ( i have not yet brought up the fact of her being a bm so I know her being here isn't the issue)

None of my bridesmaids live in the same state as i do. it hasn't been a big deal at all. i let them choose their own dresses which eliminated the need to have them order dresses at a particular place.

I think it's fine! I have 3 BMs that live out of state. I'm in Florida, and my other 4 BMs all live between 4-7 hours away from me in FL. They may not be able to attend things like your shower or bach party, but they will be there for you on the day that matters most! Don't let distance keep you from including someone if they're special to you :-)

All but one of my six bridesmaids lived outside of Maryland (where I live and got married). Their only responsibilities were to show up in the dress I picked (from David's Bridal so they could try sizes on at their local store) on our wedding day relatively sober, so they had no issues!

Some were able to visit and throw a bridal shower and bachelorette for me, but that was just an unexpected and lovely bonus!

Same as @Ella, all of my bridesmaids live in different states! I'm planning on picking a David's Bridal dress since there is a DB store near all of them. I'll probably choose a color and fabric and let them pick the style they like.

Same as @Ella, all of my bridesmaids live in different states! I'm planning on picking a David's Bridal dress since there is a DB store near all of them. I'll probably choose a color and fabric and let them pick the style they like.

I was a bridesmaid for a wedding in a different state. We had a shower for her local to me since she grew up here, and aside from picking a dress we had no issues. She was also more laid back compared to some brides and didn't need us there for every little thing. Budgeting for travel would have been a problem if she had a lot of events she wanted us at.

When it was time to pick dresses, my mother and I went to a David's Bridal locally and she (and the other bridesmaid) went to one near them. The selection was the same, so we would Skype when I had a dress on and she would text me pictures of ones she wanted me to try on. The process went surprisingly well. Communication is key though!

I live in Florida. One of my best friends lives in NC and my H sister lives in VA. My friend flew out here to try on BM dresses and see my dress. Then again for my Shower which she helped plan and then met us in Nashville for my Bachlorette and finally was here for my wedding. She is just awesome and I did the same for her when she got married in NC. I understand not everyone can have the luxury of taking off work or traveling far but someone who truly wants to be there will find a way to. My SIL never even tried on her BM dress - I did it for her and we paid for it since she is much younger than us.

If she has already indicated she will attend the wedding, the only additional responsibility she will have as a BM, is to get the dress. Talk to her.

My MOH was in state with me, but my other to BMs were out of state. They for sure wanted to be a part of the wedding, so I picked a color at David's Bridal and gave them free reign as to style. It all worked very well!

I had two BM's. One is very local and the other lives 7 hours drive away. It didn't make a difference at all. I saw the one who lives far away more than the local one. Maybe 4-5 times over the course of the year. We ordered dresses online and that was about it.

Most of my BMs are from out of state. I gave them 8 months notice about the wedding, chose inexpensive online dresses, and don't expect them to participate in any pre-wedding events. I'm so happy all of them can attend the wedding!

It's not that big of a deal, and you have to have realistic expectations for the situation. I have 3 bridesmaids, one who lives in the same state but is still an hour and a half from where the wedding will take place, one lives across the country, and the other lives a state over and will be moving to another country by the end of the year. They will pay for their flights and arrange for accommodations...my friend will stay at another friend's place, my sister will probably stay with friends or family, and my FSIL will either go back home, stay with nearby family, or get a hotel room. All they need to worry about is transportation and the dress. I don't expect them to be at my shower or bachelorette, if someone decides to throw me one. And that's ok. We all understand that it's unreasonable to expect that, and I made it clear that all I want them to do is get the dress and show up on my wedding day.

All 3 of my bridesmaids are in different states. I think you just have to set your expectations that she may not be able to make it to your pre-wedding events, but if she can, it's a bonus. If she already said she will be at the wedding it doesn't sound like a problem to have her in the bridal party.

My entire bridal party is split between California and Tennessee, but the wedding will be in Colorado (where FH & I live). I just made sure to pick a dress that was available in both states. Other than that, they'll be here for the rehearsal and the wedding. If they can make it out to CO for my bachelorette party (FH's cousin's are planning it in CO) that would be a bonus, but I know it'll be tough since they're already taking time off from work for the wedding itself.

Yup. 3 out of 4 of my BMs are currently out of state. I'm technically a few hours away so I'm not in town either (wedding is in our hometown). I let them find their own dresses. We keep in touch in a group chat on facebook

One of my bridesmaids lives in another state, so does my flower girl. Two of them live 2 hours away, but in the same state. We used online resources to order dresses. I actually ordered everyone's (minus flower girl) dress and had it shipped to their homes. They're wearing their own jewelry and shoes. We FaceTimed when the dresses arrived so I could see how they looked.

In terms of pre-wedding events, they're not required to attend - if I have them.

Of my 6 bridesmaids, 4 of them live in a different state than me. None quite as far as FL to MD, but Tenn to PA is no short trip.

My guess is that your friend would be thrilled to be asked, even if she couldn't make it work. When asking my girls, I made a point of saying that I understand that the distance was tricky, and that my only expectation was that they wore a dress I picked and came that day.

So far, the traveling has made my shower/bachelorette party planning difficult, just as I knew it would be when I asked them. But they have all been so amazing working together to find a way to make it work, and to make it special for me

So my suggestion would be to ask your very good friend. After you've thought about what your expectations are, have a frank conversation with her about her ability to travel once/multiple times. If you've been friends for a while, I'm sure you can work it out.

Hope it goes well!!

Three of my bridesmaids lived in different states and it was no problem.

I had one bridesmaid and a MOH, I live in Ireland, my bridesmaid lived in California. Couldn't get much further than that! It was fine, obviously she didn't make the batchlorete party, and we don't do wedding showers here. She was home 12 months before the wedding and I bought their dresses then, we had a lovely day out shopping. She was home again the Christmas before (3 months) and we sorted out shoes for them then. I kept her in the loop by creating a WhatsApp group for the three of us so she would feel included and could give opinions and see my final dress fitting etc things I knew that she would want to be a part off.