So hear me out...
One of my good friends and my little sister in my sorority is dating my ex boyfriend. We were together for 6 years and it was a very messy breakup, which included him low key stalking me and threatening my friends to get to me. A few years ago, my good friend told me that she had always been interested in my ex and she wanted my blessing to date him - I was not happy about it at first, but I was also in another serious relationship at this point, so over time I got over it. I wanted my friend to be happy and with or without my approval, she was going to do what made her happy.
It is now a year after college and I am engaged to be married next August. I asked her to be a bridesmaid as I really wanted to be able to share this special day with her. But now I am faced with the decision of whether or not to invite her BF/my ex BF. My fiance is very uncomfortable with the idea of him coming, and he obviously doesn't want to spend the money or share the day with someone who put me through hell after the breakup. Both of our families also know about the drama that occurred and I think that they would also find it weird if I invited her BF.
Am I in the wrong for not inviting him? They have been together for probably about 2 years at this point but don't live together. Also, how do I tell her that I don't want him there? I am not giving plus one's but should I make an exception for her since she is in my wedding party so that she could bring someone else??
Please help!!