Bridesmaid is trying to get pregnant

Well all-fucking-righty then.

She should at least see an Ob/gyn to check her reproductive health. She may not ovulate, a lot of women with "normal periods" don't ovulate they cyst. She might be prememopause or even early perimenopause if she is early 40's.

I don't think it's any of your business. If someone told me they were trying, I'd say good luck and that's it. If she is coming to you with any issues about it, that's just weird. She should be talking to the person she's trying to have a baby with about it.

Phew. I thought this was a "how do I kick out my pregnant bridesmaid" post.

Anyway. Advice: I agree with @Katie.

I don't even know if she's TALKED to her doctor about it...... She was just like "hey!! You know a lot of stuff about a lot of stuff! Can you think of anything to help us get pregnant?" To which I was just like "................. Sure?" While wondering wtf sort of information it is she wants.

Mostly I just came here because so many people on here are wanting babies. So maybe someone knows something? Or has ideas?

I personally wouldn't recommend doing anything. I get she wants babies but if her H is not onboard with trying anything, it wasn't fair for her to come to you and ask you to help her go behind his back.

@mrs Sullivan to be: I don't think it's my business either. But she came to me asking for help with something. And she is my friend. So I will try to help her any way I can. Which at this point is asking random strangers on the internet as my personal knowledge of the matter is minimal at best.

Tell her to go see a doctor.

This post is just odd....

I think the best thing she can do is discuss her situation with her ob/gyn. Her doctor is going to be the best person to give her advice on what she can be doing outside of fertility treatments that would be specific to her health.

This is just strange.

As her friend, your advice should be to talk to her doctor, and let the doctor know that she wants to get pregnant.

Let her know that you care about her, but aren't a medical professional (unless you are), and wouldn't really know what advice to give other than "have more sex."

Also, I agree with PPs about she should REALLY have another talk with her guy about having babies to make sure they're on the same page about it before it happens.

She can talk to her OB/GYN and get some tests run without her husband. That way she may be able to get some insight into possible problems and treatment advice. She may not be able to do everything on her own or without medication, but the OB/GYN is a good place to start so she can be informed

Does she know her uterus is being talked about on a public forum?

Medical advice. Just to see if everything is working correctly.

Thanks all! ^.^ Came looking for answers. Answer is "there is no cheating. Go to your doctor."

Especially thank you @CaboBride2018. I think that will help a lot.

It's really not that she's going behind his back.... exactly? He doesn't want medical interference. Natural stuff is fine by him. Like vitamins or whatever. His issue is that going to doctors apparently thwarts God's will? Somehow? I don't understand the logic behind it. At all

@Kathryn S - true dat.

And take a prenatal vitamin daily in case she does get pregnant.

And see a doctor.

@KathrynS

This post is weird. That is a friend with relationship and boundaries issues but my best friend in the world is similiar and I love through all her self inflicted craziness so... I guess I get it.

I can't help her figure out better ways to get pregnant other than @Katie's advice. See the doc and partake in the activity that begins pregnancy.

The only advice I can give and give anytime the subject of TTC comes up, is any woman who is actively trying to get pregnant (or not avoiding it by having unprotected sex without B.c.) should start treating their body as if they are pregnant to protect the early pregnancy before they know.

Stop drinking alcohol (more than a single small glass of something with supper) now. Stop high doses of caffeine or other stimulants now. Stop smoking now (pretty please lol). Don't crash diet or take on crazy physical activity (maintaining some exercise is good and even necessary, but now is not the time to get off the couch and start marathon training). Start prenatal vitamins now.

Does she think it's going to be an issue? There are ovulation tracking apps. She should just have sex when she's ovulating. Most doctors won't even think about testing anything until you've tried for 6 months and not pregnant.

Sounds like the blind is trying to lead the blind! I know if I need advice on TTC the first person I'd speak to for advice is my pcp. I think the last person I would ask is a friend who doesn't have and doesn't want children.