Bridesmaid issues

I never was planning to replace anyone. She just has told a lot of lies about things and buying her dress was one and she finally had paid for it after it had been due for months and I told her that so at that time I had thought of not having her in my wedding because she knew for months that she had to pay for it by a certain date and she wasn’t telling me like she didn’t have the money or something just kept lying and saying the place wasn’t answering their phone for her to pay and coming up with lots of excuses other then just saying hey I can’t pay right now. She had also said she had a health issue and now I’ve never heard about it again. Mostly because she doesn’t respond

Unfortunately some people aren’t that great of people and you find out who your true friends are when planning a wedding... nothing I can change about it now unfortunately I wish I could go back in time!

That's ashame what you're going thru but you're completely justified in what you wanna do. My MOH dropped out due to our friendship ending. She got divorced not long before I got engaged and she was never really excited for me. She was bitter and always seemed to have a comment about everything. Also she got a friends with benefits and would prioritize him over our friendship so we fizzled out a month before our wedding. I was understanding to a point, but sometimes people grow apart. Do what is best for you !

View Quoted Comment Thank you!! I’m so glad there is someone on here that understands what I’m going thru because most people that are commenting have no clue what this is like and I unfortunately can’t control that friendships sometimes don’t workout and everyone commenting that hasn’t had to deal with this is really lucky because it’s caused me a lot of stress!!!!

Two words - Bye Felicia.


Planning a wedding is stressful enough, especially during this time. If she isn’t providing you the help you need, it’s probably better off to cut it loose.
Hope this helps!

This is a BIG reason why I am not doing bridesmaids. My best friend is being my witness and thats it. saves me money and drama.

but i was my best friends maid of honor and lived over 1,500 miles from her but I did the best i could by many many facetimes. Flying to her parents house when I could to help and etc. I wasnt there for her the way I wanted to be but I did everything in my power to do the best i could so far away.

What exactly has she lied about other than the details of her buying her dress for the wedding?

View Quoted Comment She’s lied about major things that aren’t really necessary to post on here but health issues and things like why she may not be able to be in the wedding but then I see on Snapchat she’s out drinking and partying. I’m just done with it all and I’ve made up my mind! Thanks for the input!

I recently just cut one of my bridesmaids out of our wedding and I'm happy I did. I feel like a lot of brides (at least 3 friends I know that were brides) have trouble with at least one bridesmaid when planning their wedding. She put in no effort or support into planning and made excuses for missing all my events (bachelorette party, bridal shower) and was trying to get out of paying for her bridesmaid dress. It's definitely upsetting and no one likes a falling out with a person you thought was a good friend but it does happen. Just today I asked a family friend to fill in for her as my bridesmaid and she happily accepted

View Quoted Comment You're welcome! I find that a lot of people on this site tend to be judgmental. And you have no control over if your friendship works out. People come n go. My husband and I lost friendships because of the coronavirus (they ignored our texts n we got tired of always reaching out first) & unfortunately it takes a crappy situation to happen to see people's true colors