Bridesmaid problems

Try talking to them out of work. Ask them if there’s been a problem or something that’s upset them. Maybe it’s just been too much wedding talk, which can happen easily for anyone getting married. If they continue to ignore you, you might have to straight up ask them if they still want to be in the wedding. Having no bridesmaids is a million times better than having ones who don’t support you and want to be there. Good luck.

I haven't talked about my wedding with them in a few weeks! If any thing we talk about my heath, their relationship problems , or just gossip and have fun. But its like one day they woke up and started being jerks to me . Just making me feel bad about myself

That sounds terrible! I’m sorry to hear!

I think the best thing to do is to talk to them first, see if anything is bothering them, doesn’t have to specifically be the wedding. They could be under a lot of stress or jealous. Who knows. But it would be a disservice to you to have two unsupportive people as your wedding party.

Also congrats on the promotion!!

I would try talking to them about how you're feeling, it's possible they're both struggling with their own stuff and just aren't paying attention to how they're acting.
However, if that doesn't work, I'd say this is one of those rare occasions where making a former BM just a guest is perfectly reasonable. The thing to keep in mind is that that WILL likely end your friendships

Okay, it seems like it’s time to find a new job and friends.

Make sure to update your re’sume’ with your new position.

I’m sorry that you’re going through this.

I had a Bridesmaid stop taking to me. She didn’t want to talk about it (I asked twice) so I lined up a replacement, didn’t invite her to my Wedding, had an absolutely lovely event and do not regret my decision.

As of last week, I heard that “she doesn’t know what happened”. 😒

What happened is that you will not act like a child and take your problems out on me, then expect to enjoy the event, food, drinks, and 🍰 that I paid for.

If you feel they're important maybe you can resolve the issue but a part of it sounds like they're jealous too

I would let them know they're welcome to attend as guests if they'd rather do that instead of being BMs. I find it very odd that they would all of a sudden turn on you after getting a promotion

Removing them from your bridal party will only make the relationship worse. Maybe it is salvageable and maybe it isn’t— but that’s a surefire way to turn it into a bigger, unresolvable issue. Really the only thing to do is have an open and honest conversation with them to try to figure out what’s going on, get to the bottom of it, and determine if it’s worth trying to rebuild. I would sit them down and let them know that the conversation from the other day hurt you, both on a professional level and because you felt you were good friends. I would mention that you’ve felt things have seemed a little off lately and you want to sort it out— I’d ask if there was something I had done and if I there was something I could fix. I would make it me-centric (did *i* do something, can *i* change something) instead of blaming them for changing their behavior....and , I’d take it from there. Maybe there is a specific and solvable issue, or maybe they’re just jerks or maybe theyre not willing to y’all about it — but at least then you know, it’s not worth effort on your end to try to move past. If they are jerks or non-communicative when having a direct conversation, at that point I would not kick them out, but dive them the opportunity to step down (“do you not want to be involved in the wedding anymore ? It’s okay if you don’t want to be a part of the bridal party” —). Be you really owe it to yourself to have an actual conversation, no matter how uncomfortable or difficult it may be. Without a conversation, there really is no potential for resolution

If they don’t wanna hear about your personal life then I can’t imagine they still want to be in your wedding. What’s more personal than your wedding day. And if they do, so what? I don’t worry about hurting the feelings of people who don’t treat me well.

Maybe rearrange your wedding to have just maid of honnor and best man in the ceromony with you and your husband to be and then have the remaining party come as regular quests, that way everyone can still come and enjoy and feelings wont be hurt much.

View Quoted Comment Yes! I don’t understand! Maybe because i got the promotion over my “friends” sister, because the sister works with us to!! But i dont know, they have been off lately

With issues I’ve had, I leave aside the bridesmaid title. I ask if there’s any issues with me personally to them first. Most of the time it had nothing to Do with the wedding. And you can resolve ur issues as friends first if that makes sense. Good relationships make for great bridesmaids, but friendships have to come first

Great friendships*** make for great bridesmaids, but friendships have to come first