Bridesmaid Proposal Box too cheap?

Here's what I gave mine! The wrapped items is the "bridesmaids" DVD. Also an inexpensive option!

@lisa no...its dec 23rd

@jessica bridesmaids is my fav movie, I love love LOVE your box!

Omg mine too!!! Maybe just get them the DVD! It's your fave plus you can find great deals on DVDs! I got mine from Amazon, they're only 4.75 right now!

I loved giving a proposal and they loved getting them. I did this personalized wine bottle. But please don't ask to early. And a hard no on the Christmas eve engagement party. Just make it a Christmas party

Ok! i'll just have a Christmas party...kind of like our 1st annual Christmas party. He is in the house so it would be the first time we decorate it together and have people over. I won't be moving in until after the wedding

@Dana I guess what I mean is if having equal sides is very important, what will happen if somebody says no? Will you try to keep sides equal for equality's sake, or accept unequal sides? I ask because the more people you "invite" to be in your BP, the higher the chances somebody can't. However, if you only ask 3 people each, then the likelihood of somebody saying no is dramatically reduced. I'm not saying one way is right or wrong, but maybe having less people in the BP is safer, and you can find an alternative way to honor your other friends without having them in the BP itself. Just some musings

I am all for doing whatever you want. Its your wedding, you do you.

I also like to prepare people for situations. In my first wedding I had 7 bridesmaids. 7 people in the world I could not live without having in my wedding.

It was stressful and irritating. I am friends with all of them still today, but I also didn't need to have a bridal party that large. Trying to keep 11 ladies (22 all together) in line for photos among everything else is chore. It is not fun, it is very hard to get photos that fit everyone. I just saw a photo from a friend this weekend who was in a wedding with like 9 on either side. It was by far overkill. I am sure they were all her nearest and dearest...but its alot.

This is something that I would ask you to consider when having that many people potentially in your WP.

This is my second wedding/marriage. I have 3 bridesmaids. One of them is my 12 year old daughter (moh) and the other two are friends of mine, both of which were BMs in my first wedding.

Again, I am all for doing what you want, I would just suggest you consider how that affects you.

I think the main reason people here are freaking out (I'm not even going to touch on the Christmas Eve engagement party...) is because you said you're on a budget, want 11 bridesmaids and proposal boxes all in the same sentence. Those are not things that go together; if you are on a strict budget you would not have 22 people in your wedding party and sending them all proposals unless your "budget" for just the wedding party is something like 10k. What kind of numbers are we talking here?

Typically when you are on a budget, you throw out all the unnecessary items and bridesmaids boxes are one of the easiest things to go without. Also, I know you are excited but try not to ask them until next year. And don't get caught up in the fantasy of everyone saying yes and having equal parties, the numbers don't matter and chances are someone can't make it or will back out midway through. It's just not practical to think otherwise.

Maybe I am not thinking it through but right now I am not paying for anything yet. I just got engaged in May. The only thing I have secured is the venue and it has been paid for. So for now... I have money for the boxes but overall if I could SAVE money I want to. I coupon , I find bargains, I like to DIY. If it doesn't make sense financially to pay $100+ for some balloons I rather spend the $100 on something else. I'd rather get the boxes together now before I have to start paying for the caterer, the florist, the dj. Idk I feel like I've contacted the vendors I am interested in and I have prices. I rather wait and go to a few bridal shows before locking everyone in now and regretting it 3 months later. I am open to everyone's feed back and I appreciate it. I'm the first out of my friends to get married and I honestly don't know what I am doing but I am trying to figure it out w/o losing my mind. I am still every excited!

Hey Date Twin DO IT! I did!

My FH & I already "proposed" to our bridal party with our proposal boxes to each of them (4 on each side) they all loved it & it was such an awesome get together with everyone!

Weddinf party proposals are cute but a waist of money. If anything send just the balloon with a note inside. Don't overdue it. Also don't have 11 bridesmaids. That means 22+ people in the weddinf party. that's a lot of money, gifts, stress and drama!

I've been in a number of weddings. They all just asked me to be.

Regarding your concerns about possibly narrowing down the size of your bridal party (because PP have your other questions covered), I will tell you my story. FH has about 7 or 8 close friends that he said he could not narrow down and only pick a couple from. I don't have too many close female friends. I asked one of FH's friend's girlfriend who I'm friendly with to be a bridesmaid so I could get up to 3 of them. FH "narrowed" his side to 6 by making the extra friend an usher. I tried getting him for months to get down to 3, but he said he just couldn't. I ended up just letting it go and having 3 bridesmaids and 6 groomsmen in our wedding party. Now that we're getting closer, and looking at logistics of how we want everyone to go down the aisle and whatnot, FH is slowly realizing that maybe he should have just had 3, and that his friends really would not have cared that much if they weren't a groomsman or not. It's a little too late to change it now, since he already asked them, and they already paid for their tux rentals, but I think if he could do it over, he probably could have narrowed down his side to 3.

Maybe if you explain the costs associated with a larger wedding party (flowers/bouts, wedding party gifts, tux rentals for the guys, extra large transportation), and tell him all his other friends who aren't groomsmen can still attend things like his bachelor party, he might start to see things differently.

You can just ask maybe send a sweet letter telling them why you love and appriciate them in your life.

@Dana -- Be excited! Everyone of us (for the most part) is on a budget! If these are the people you want to be in your wedding, do something special for them! I made boxes for my girls - painted them myself - and they have custom order M&Ms with our colors, 'Will You?' and our wedding date. There's also a makeup bag, and a 'game day' coozie in them as we are using our NFL team to make up part of our 'theme.' I created the cards that are going in each box. They are personalized for each woman and the relationship I have with them.

As for the sweater party -- you said it's the 23rd. That's not Christmas Eve and it's a themed party. You know your crowd. If that's what works, rock it!

I made boxes like this

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11 is too many people if you are at all concerned about your budget.

I got each of my bridesmaids a bracelet that said bridesmaid on a heart charm and they came with a box and a little proposal card! They were each like $17 and the girls loved them! Found them on Etsy. Let me know if you want a link to them or something! The girls wear them sometimes now and I said if they want they can wear them on wedding day