Bridesmaid proposal

It's honestly better to ask first because the gift can make people feel pressured to say yes, even if they don't want to. I would recommend you do that for all of them. Also, the bridal party proposals are a relatively new trend. You want to get a a thank you gift for them at the end, either day of or before the wedding to thank them for their support. If you want to do a proposal gift, something small is fine. You do not need to go all out.

View Quoted Comment Okay thank you. I already asked two of them because it naturally came up in conversation. I plan on doing a gift because it seems more personable than a text or phone call. I live out of state from everyone who is in the bridal party.

I wouldn't spend too much money on the actual bridesmaids proposal. Instead, you could do something inexpensive like a cute card or customized puzzle or something small to formally ask each of them to be in your wedding, and then put together celebration baskets with whatever else you wanted to give them for after they accept (mini champagne bottles, tumblers, etc). In general, bridesmaids proposal boxes can often put pressure on people to accept, especially if the boxes seem like they were expensive. With a card or phone call or something not expensive, they wouldn't be pressured to respond in any specific way, and giving them the celebration boxes after the fact would make it a fun way to celebrate!

Why does asking someone require spending money? Before Pinterest and Instagram made the proposal box into a trend, brides asked people who were/are super close without putting them on the spot to say yes. That is either by a phone call or in person without spending a dime on presents.



If you want this woman to be a bridesmaid because she is one of your closest friends and not asked out of obligation, call her up and ask. Doesn’t cost you a single penny. It also doesn’t pressure her to say yes on the spot for fear that she will hurt your feelings if she is unable to commit.

Save the gifts for after the wedding is over and you are thanking them for being by your side.

I am just asking mine with cute cards! I also don't think there's anything wrong with just asking them normally and then sending a gift after.

Bridesmaid proposals are not at all required, I'd use that money for a nice gift for after the wedding.

I did/am doing my proposal boxes as surprises. Everyone I'm sending them to has already verbally agreed to be in the wedding party. I've had some people hesitantly say no because they didn't feel they could put in the time. I'm glad I didn't ask with a box because I feel they would have felt pressured to say yes.

This is what I did for my bridesmaids! I own a cricut so I made the save the date and the will you be my bridesmaid card and also the shirt. Then I got a fall candle, a “I pick you” apple hand sanitizer and a pretty nail polish 🥰