Bridesmaid Proposals?

You can do whatever works for you and fits your budget....I had my girls over for brunch but there’s nothing wrong with just calling them and asking either!

I called my girls- I will just give them a nice gift the day of the wedding. Gift boxes can make it harder for people to decline if they need to. You could also send a card, that way they have time to think it over and get back with you.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with NOT giving a "bridesmaid proposal" box to ask your friends to be in your wedding party. It actually puts more pressure on them and some may feel obligated to say yes even if they don't want to or aren't sure. Write a heartfelt letter or just give them a call If you want to give them a gift, do it after they've said yes so they're not pressured.

If you are a student on a budget just write a nice card and ask them. This was more than enough for decades... These pintrest bridesmaids "proposals" are not needed at all. At the wedding you can give them a nice gift.

I purchased this ring pop box template on etsy and gave them/mailed them to my girls

https://www.etsy.com/transaction/1328491760

My sister-n-law just asked us and then on the wedding day she gave us all a gift bag that had a silk robe and jewelry she wanted us to wear for the wedding along with our bouquets. I'm planning my wedding now and probably will do the same.

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Props needed for the wedding and/or photos (the robe, jewelry and bouquet) are not gifts.

I just asked my sisters and texted the rest because they live in different states... Looking back I should have probably called them.. haha I don't see a purpose of getting the box and doing this big thing. If you consider the proposal is the gift you are giving them, then that might be ok, but if you also plan on giving them a gift right before the wedding (which is traditional), the cost of both things will be pretty high. I have 8 bridesmaids and the cost of their gifts and flowers and other odds and ends really adds up quick.

I would say it would be nice to write them a note and give them their favorite candy bar or something. You could invite them to coffee or brunch, but they might expect you to pay...

Plus, what if a bridesmaid has to deny your proposal (they might be out of town or personal reasons)? It would be really hard for them if you gave them a big box/gift.

Good Luck though!

I did candles that said "will you be my Bridesmaid?" I got the candles from Etsy for $10 and they came in a little gift box. It was really cute and the girls loved it, I see them using the candle a lot.

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I disagree... I handmade all of my bridesmaids necklaces, bracelets and earrings to wear for the wedding. I think that jewelry is most certainly a gift because they can wear it after the wedding. At least where I am from, getting jewelry from the bride the day before as a gift is normal. Plus, as a bridesmaid in my friends wedding this summer, I don't even expect her to get me a gift since I know how much she has to spend on the rest of the wedding, so anything I receive is absolutely fine.

Their bouquets on the other hand are not gifts, but necessities for the wedding...

Going to the chapel is spot on, don't consider photo props gifts. Especially when its customized to fit YOUR theme/color scheme.

Just give them a call, all this over the top crap is simple that, over the top and unnecessary. Especially if you are on a budget.

I am against the proposals because it makes it even harder to say no if they have to. My FH asked his good friend to be a groomsman and his friend was already dreading tell him that he couldnt make it to our wedding and he had to tell him no. People do say no and it'll make so much harder and full of guilt. Simple phone calls or while you're already hanging out with them. You know their personalities. One I texted in great suspense and she still tells the story because she thought it was perfect for her.

Also what she said^. It makes it almost impossible to say no and there are situations were saying no is the best thing to do.

I took them out to lunch individually and asked.

Agreeing with the above posters on simply asking them. The only person getting proposed to should be the bride to be. When did proposing to bridesmaids become a thing?

I just asked. No bells. No whistles. I just said, hey...wanna be my bridesmaid? This proposal thing is starting to get hairy and over the top. I feel it becomes a pressure situation for the bridal party in some cases.

I proposed using these cute little card booklets. They had a carriage on them and were in a fairytale theme (I got engaged at Disneyland and am honeymooning at Disney World so it fits our loose theme). I think if you can find a sweet budget way, theres no wrong idea! Even just looking on Etsy for the bracelets or necklaces that come on a backing asking them to be your bridesmaids. That way they also have something to wear for the wedding.

I just called and asked my sisters, they live in different states from me.

I justed asked. they were all there when he proposed so that was excitement in itself

Bridesmaid proposal boxes are like , maybe five years old max. Before that, people just asked their nearest and dearest. Not evething has to be Pinterest worthy.

Things to be used for / at the wedding are not really gifts though, as they are meant as props for the wedding. Wedding party gifts should be unique and suited to them.