Bridesmaid Proposals...

I didn't do this. I just plainly asked them.

I've never really understood how bridesmaid proposals became a thing. I don't think I even asked my bridesmaids officially, it was just a given and we started talking about the bridesmaid dresses and whatnot. I get just plainly asking, but anything beyond that seems weird to me.

I agree with you completely which is why I won't do them, and why I mention that they aren't necessary and can make potential BMs feel unnecessarily pressured IF someone comes here looking for advice on asking bridesmaids or proposal ideas.

I do, however, know it's an UO and don't feel the need to shit all over other people's happiness since it isn't the kind of thing that is actually against etiquette and doesn't hurt anybody, so I don't randomly bring it up.

BTW, you shouldn't be asking your wedding party until next April. And that is a common opinion here on WW.

I just asked. It's a cute idea but I had more important things to work on/figure out.

Yup. I used my phone . Didnt spend any money. I don't get why this is a thing now

I never understood why this was EVER a thing. I just asked my girls individually.

I think it's weird, to be perfectly honest. I didn't even know it was a thing until I got engaged in March. A coworker asked me how I was going to "pop the question" to my bridesmaids. I was very confused, lol. Then she pulled up bridesmaid proposals on Pinterest to show me, and I was like noooo. That is so not me.

I'm only having a MOH. We went out for drinks shortly after I got engaged ( something we do about once a month anyway) and I asked her.

I've only been a BM twice, both times the bride simply asked. In both cases I never would have said no - it was my brothers wedding, and my cousins wedding - but I can see how a big elaborate BM proposal could make someone feel pressured to say yes.

I asked mine over text message. No need for anything fancy; they knew they would be in the wedding party anyway.

Absolutely un essential.

I wont be asking them for another couple of months. No need to be snippy.

I haven't asked anyone yet, but I plan to just ask.

I called my MOH on the phone and asked her. ETA: My original date was 3/2/18, so it wasn't too early, then. But, I can't imagine anyone else standing at my side.

Honestly, it is weird and over the top. Not required by etiquette AT ALL. Take them out to lunch and ask they personally. If they are out of town, call and have a heartfelt phone chat. Cards and especially gifts are NOT necessary.

I live far away from all of mine and don't see them too often. I thought a card would be nice and when they receive it, give them a call and chat.

I completely agree with the above posters. Just call them up. I have always wondered if you gave Maybe Barbie Bridesmaid a cutesy giftie box and she couldn't be a bridesmaid, should she give it back or keep it?

A few weeks back there was a discussion forum on the groom asking his potential groomsmen with a groomsmen box. Just too much.

It can be cute but for me it was unnecessary, I just gave each girl a card with a picture of the two of us and called it good

I feel like pinterest has brainwashed people into thinking what they have to do for weddings. Not hating on pinterest, but seriously, I have seen so much burlap on wedding decor sites I never want to see it again. To each their own of course.

I just asked them in person.I don't think that it's necessary to send bridesmaid proposal's, yet if you want to,go right ahead!