Bridesmaid shaves off all her hair

Until it happens to you, you will not understand where she is coming from. We don't give two hot cents that they cut their hair....It is annoying that you have dreamed this wedding all of your life and then to have something this tiny comes to ruin your vision.

I've never posted in the forums here before, but felt compelled to spout off. I feel like this has become a controversial issue. Lol. I have to say, I can see both sides of the fence on this one. Sure, we can't control any drastic decisions our wedding party makes before the wedding - that doesn't mean we can't quietly brood about it a little bit. I would be upset just because I would have had the courtesy to ask the bride for her thoughts. Also - if it didn't matter what the bridal party looked like, why would we have them dress a certain way? Your friends are your friends for reasons other than their look, but I agree with Yardie. I have a certain idea of what my pictures will look like and someone shaving their head would definitely force me to alter my vision.

Bottom line, my girls are free to live their lives - my wedding isn't the end all be all - but that doesn't mean I wouldn’t be upset about a shaved head. I’d probably just be upset to myself…and my poor mother.

Honey, it's your wedding day, your thoughts, your girls & if YOU know you didn't mean anything big by your comments- don't explain. I would have felt the same way if my BM did that & even told them...& I'm sure it wouldn't change anything. I mean, in the end...we all have a right to what we want to see on display at our weddings. Having a preference doesn't change the dynamics of a relationship or define a person..

Agreed^^^^^ @Soon2Be_MrsKennedy

If we truely didnt care what our bridesmaids looked like we wouldnt pick their dresses, shoes, accessories. I think you have a right to be annoyed, just as she has a right to do what she wants with her head. If someone says they dont care how their bridesmaids look than I encourage those bridesmaids to show up in sweats, and no makeup. And with all their heads shaved. See if those "non-judgemental" brides change their tune.

EXACTLY @Kayla, Danielle, Soon2Be_Mrs.Kennedy , and Amy S.

I thought we could come in here an vent...and be human...didn't know I had to act like I'm infallible

I would be upset if someone in my bridal party did that, but I wouldn't say anything. But heck yes I'd be annoyed, I can't think of anyone who wouldn't feel even a slight twinge of annoyance at that. Yes, their head their choice kinda thing but it doesn't mean that yu can't feel hurt/upset that they did that. And someone with cancer who had no choice in the matter of whether or not they lost their hair cannot in my opinion, be compared to someone who chose to cut off all their hair.

@Amy S. my sentiments exactly!! I thought the same thing...smh @ all of the judgement.

I could not have said it better, Amy S.

I understand being annoyed. Reminds me of my senior prom in high school. This is when Eminem was super popular and boys thought it would be totally cool to bleach their hair just like him and many did it right before prom. My date's dad flat out told him not a chance in hell he would let him dye his hair like that right before prom and embarrass me. He ended up doing it the day after and looked more like a clown than Eminem LOL.

It might be an annoyance now... but trust me it does not matter AT ALL. We had he BEST wedding party every in terms of their behavior. They really took care of Edubb and I, really sacrificed for us (they were having some major issues they did not either tell us about our pushed aside for us) and that matters so much more than what they looked like.

My advice to all brides (looking back on it) is to focus on the things that matter. Don't spend a bit of energy getting annoyed about things that will not make a hill of beans later... even in the pictures.

I hated my pictures from my wedding although others said they were nice. But even that does not upset me anymore. Edubb and I are happily married. Just know that things that seem monumental now in terms of annoyances will be minuscule later. I hope that encourages you all a bit.

I would be super annoyed. Sure it is their hair and their bodies and we love them for more than what they look like. But I'm planning a really nice classy wedding which I want my pictures to reflect. If one of my BMs decided to go all crazy and dye their hair orange - that would kind of ruin my vision. Now if she had a history of doing weird stuff to her hair, then that would be my fault for asking her to be a BM.

Thanks EDubbsWife

....I think that sometimes this planning process just gets to me...

I now know why people hire these expensive wedding planners so they don't have to deal with the big and little things that arise...

there are times when I just want it to be over and go live happily ever after

I'd be venting if one of my bridesmaids did this too...and I think I'd be a bit more than annoyed. Yardie...you have a right to be upset about this. You have a vision for your day...and in many cases, your vision includes how your bridesmaids will look standing next to you on your big day.

Yes, we choose our bridal party based on who they are to us...but we also want our bridal party to be as picture perfect as we and our groom do on our wedding day.

I'm sorry..but I think if this happened to other brides on here, they'd be just as upset/annoyed/or whatever to want to vent about it...that's one thing about these forums, it gives us an outlet to vent and bounce our thoughts off of one another instead of going bridezilla on those who have 'annoyed' us.

I would say the same damn thing girl.Let's be real. Yes its their hair but "my " wedding. What if the cut doesn't look good than what. Picture will be taken and every time you look at the pics and see that hot mess of a mistake. Now if it is cute that is okay.

I wouldn't kick her out but will be wig shopping. lol

Sorry Yardie, I couldn't resist. (-_-)

I happen to like a shaved head and think that I look damned good. Even more so when I am dressed up in a super sexy dress & some kick ass stilletos.

Ok ladies, carry on. Just wanted to stand up for us bald headed ladies. LOL (-_-)

I honestly didn't choose on of my friends to be a bridesmaid because of her full back tattoo and the tattoo on her breasts. She is a good friend of mine and I love her to death, but I do not like tattoos especially where these are placed. I don't want to look at my wedding pictures and cringe every time i see them. I agree with Alina and I do not want my wedding pictures to reflect anything that I stand against or do not feel is classy.

I know id be seriously bummed, but I know i wouldnt say anything tho.

here's an interesting question: if she shaved her head prior to you asking her would you have stopped yourself from asking her?

or, lets say she gained 75 pounds between you asking her and your wedding. would you feel the same way?

again, id be bummed but remember everyone is going to be focused on you~not her.

Whoa, Aubrey C, now your opinion just turned judgemental. Who says a shaved head isn't classy? This post was fun up until that moment.

@Kimberly I think you rock the bald look very well, not many woman have the face and shape to do it.

I never said a shaved head isn't classy. I am saying the tattoos on my friend I do not find to be classy. A shaved head on the other hand is something that I would get over.