Hi everyone,
I'm starting this thread because I'm unsure about how to handle this situation. My husband and I had a destination wedding at the end of June. One of my bridesmaids I've known since middle school and lives in a different state sent me a text a couple days before the wedding saying she had a very high fever. She said if she didnt feel better the next day she couldnt get on her flight to the wedding. I was so busy already with everyone coming to the hotel and all the other tasks with a destination wedding that it kept leaving my mind then she would text again about how she would try to get a flight the following day. I knew that wouldnt happen. The situation reminded me of a time I went on vacation with her when she said she was too sick to go out and I instantly got the feeling she was faking it. I called my MOH about it. She told me she had talked to her about how she was feeling so bad that she would not be able to make it. Of course it upset me that she couldnt be there, but it bothered me more that I thought she was lying about being sick. I asked her to be my bridesmaid over a year before and I know she had her bridesmaids dress because she sent me a picture of her in it. When we met up with friends the night my bridesmaid texted she was sick I complained to my MOH and her husband. They made a good point that she is going through a divorce and recently moved out of her house to an apartment. She just began the 50 50 custody agreement between her and her ex husband for her son. My MOH and her husband suggested that she might be going through alot of emotional stress and didnt want to be away from her son. It made sense, except her exhusband was supposed to have their son at that time. Basically, I wasn't as upset with her anymore after thinking about her situation. I expected her to call me within a few days after the wedding to see how it was, but she didn't. Now it's a little over a month and she has still not called or texted me. The other thing I realized is that she called my MOH about her not being able to come to the wedding but not me! I only got some texts. I'm not sure what to do. I cant believe she hasn't contacted me and I'm hurt about it. I feel weird calling or texting her because if she acts like this why would I want her in my life. I also dont want to be so petty that I lose a friendship. I asked my friends what to do but all they say is that it's bogus she hasn't contacted me. I really wish i didnt ask her to be a part of our wedding.
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