Bridesmaid won't come to bachelorette w/out her guy

If she can't keep it in her pants for one night, and thinks she will cheat on her SO, then she shouldn't be in that relationship. Bachelorette parties are (typically) girls ONLY! Tell her she is invited, and he is not. And if she can't come without him, then she can't come at all. If she is supposed to be your BFF she should get her act together and support you.

I'm glad I'm not overreacting. I'm really just irritated and upset right now. I had told her that I probably wouldn't do it down there then if she couldn't go. But I really want to go. My MOH is def going and probably both of the other BM will go, 1 in Georgia and 1 in TX. I'll still give her details in case she comes to her senses, but he's not allowed, not even to dinner.

Tell her it's a girls night. So no guys.

No guys. Period. She is being absolutely ridiculous.

I get annoyed with people who can't be without their other half for a single evening. I love FH with all my heart, and we LOOOOOVE spending time together. But we occasionally do things separately with our friends, and we don't make a huge deal out of it.

She is ridiculous if they can't be apart for a single night (or even a weekend) and even more ridiculous that she either doesn't trust herself or trust him. He should NOT be in attendance at your bachelorette party, and to be honest, that sounds like a man's nightmare lol- he will be miserable!! I would be pissed at my friend. Tell her its a girls-only event, and let her decide if she is going to come or not.

Sorry you're dealing with that, she's being absurd! For my cousin's wedding one of her BM (and friend since HS) said she wouldn't walk down the aisle with her arm through the GM's arm because it wasn't HER husband and she wouldn't touch another man! Like really? It's an arm through another arm and barely touching for like 30 seconds to walk down the aisle! In the end her husband said it was OK and so she did it but we all thought that was ridiculous! And she didn't come to the Bachelorette Party either, she said she couldn't get away from work but we were all pretty sure it was cuz her husband wasn't allowed to come.

I can't stand people who can't go anywhere without their SO. I would definitely be upset and let her know he's not invited. It sucks she won't go if he doesn't but don't change what you want for one person!

I'd be pissed. But you'll probably have more fun without her in the end!

Nope, not allowed to bring him at all. Sucks for her, sounds like she will miss out on an amazing time!

This girl is cray cray. Does she bring him in the fitting room at stores too?

Obviously you know your friend and I don't, but here's an alternate perspective -- maybe instead of an immature jerk, your friend is actually trapped in an abusive relationship. Isolating someone from their friends, controlling where they go, and insisting on being a "chaperone" is a classic way that men use emotional abuse to control women. Your friend's boyfriend may have convinced her that this is "reasonable" because she cheated previously, or she's afraid of the consequences if she stands up for herself. This is a huge red flag for me, and could be an opportunity to check in on your friend. If you think there's a chance this could be the case, let her know you're worried about her and want to make sure she's not feeling trapped or controlled in her relationship.

Agree with the previous poster - your friend obviously has issues. If she is close enough to be your bridesmaid, she is close enough to talk to you openly and honestly. You have a right to be upset, but if you truly care about your friend, try to take your wedding out of the equation and help her through this.