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Thank you!!!

View Quoted Comment Few brides require a $300 dress anymore, but if your bride does it’s easy to say “I’m sorry I can’t afford that right now. I’d still love to come witness your wedding without being in the party.” But this situation has nothing to do with the original post. OP is talking about a bm not wanting to buy the dress because she doesn’t like the color. The dres she chose is not even close to $300.

Yeah haha the dress is $99.

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That was obviously just an example. This bride is not doing anything wrong.

View Quoted Comment Oh, gosh! Good luck with her. I will have the same issue. I have a handful of ppl like that and I learned very quickly not to bring up the wedding to them. It stinks because two of them are my sister and my grandmother and instead of them being supportive and happy for me, they're just negative and they make it about them. FH and I decided to keep details to ourselves and only give information out on a need to know basis. Dresses are definitely need to know. I'm preparing for a lot of pleading, whining, and aggression from my sister. Can't wait...

Tell her no. It's not her wedding, it's yours. She can suck it up for one day, and if she can't, ask her if she really wants to burn that bridge, because that's what would happen because she'd be showing you that her attire is more important than your happiness on YOUR day.

One way to put it is: "I'm sorry you feel that way about the color, but this is what I chose. I hope you realize how important it is to me that you respect my wishes for my wedding."

I had the same issue but with a groomsman saying he didn't like the grey suits they were to wear and wanted different color. My FH went back and forth with him, I finally stepped in and told him this is the color that all groomsmen will be wearing if he is not wanting to wear it, that is totally okay, he is still more then welcome to attend as a guest. He chose to wear it

The way I saw it and do see it is it is your day and they agreed to be in the wedding party. If you chose a color and someone doesn't like it , they can wear it or come as a guest and when they get married pick their own colors

Wow really I mean suggestions are okay but you still do how you please. I would have a sit down with her

View Quoted Comment Not sure how many BMs you have, but you can't please EVERYONE. If you changed it then the first three would probably be unhappy, change that and IDK BM #5 might be unhappy. It is what it is. You like it, it's not expensive, she will get over it. Sorry she was not so nice about it. I'm sure it will be fine in the end, but you're not wrong to stand your ground/ be annoyed. Sounds like you guys had a "discussion" about it, so now I guess you both move on and you get to plan other fun things for your wedding day!

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Ugh. Sounds horrid! Very similar to what I'm anticipating from this one.

Who has the nerve to say "I want to wear a different color than what you've chosen and everyone else is wearing"? Tell them that's the color for the wedding party, and if they wear anything else, they're a regular guest.