Bridesmaid

Removing someone from wedding party is typically a friendship-ending move. Have you tried having a conversation with her first to let her know how you feel? If not, I would try that first. Things may improve! If things don't change after that, then, if you decide to remove her from the wedding party, let her know that you feel it's best for your friendship that she doesn't participate in your wedding party, but that she's welcome to attend the wedding as a guest. Be aware that if you remove her, your friendship with her might not recover afterwards.

If this woman is about to be your sister-in-law, you're stuck with her. I would honestly make like a duck at this point (let it roll off). If you ask her not to be a bridesmaid, she's still going to be starting drama/mad at you for stuff you think is stupid. At that point, she's also likely to complain about you to your FH's family. While they likely know the kind of person she is, if she has something legitimate ("Haylie asked me to be a BM and now she's being mean and telling me I can't be") then, unfortunately you come out looking worse . . .

It's kind of a no-win situation, to be honest.

Unfortunately by removing her from the bridal party will create never ending drama. It will make you look worse and give a reason for your inlaws to dislike you just let it go. And stand up for yourself tell her these attacks are not needed or wanted.

Keep in mind that she may no longer want a relationship with you anymore.

Time to tell her that her behavior is not acceptable. If it continues, you could drop her but it possibly might end to your friendship. Talk to your fiancé & future in laws.

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Agree with this fully. Unfortunately she is not a friend you can cut ties with and never see again. She will be apart of your family. I agree to maybe sit down and talk to her and maybe nicely say you noticed she has not liked certain things about the wedding and wanted to ask is everything ok. Sadly, this could be her personality and you now see her for who she is. If she does not change from this point forward I would just depend on her showing up the day of. What exactly is she causing issues with?

View Quoted Comment I agree. This woman isn't someone that you can just write off and be done with. You are going to be family. My advice is not to kick her out of your wedding. I think of you were to kick her out of the wedding you could he creating even more problems because your fiance's family would then be forced to pick sides. Given that she is already apart of their family and you are just the fiancee at this point they might all pick her side because they won't want to isolate her husband/their son. Instead, I would sit down with her one on one and discuss the issues that you have been having. I would do it in a way that doesn't make her feel like she is being attacked or else she is going to feel the need to be on defense and likely cause more issues.

I'm gonna be the oddball in this situation I guess. I would definitely have a talk with her & let her know that you're not gonna continue to put up with the drama anymore. Also tell her that if she continues then she will no longer be a part of the bridal party.


You don't have to put up with unnecessary drama just because she's related to your fiancé. Yes it might end your friendship, but don't make your wedding planning more stressful than it or because she's starting problems