Bridesmaid/moh advice

Hi lovely brides/wives/people


I am looking for advice.A friend of mine(5+yrs friendship) and I have had some rocky patches.Let’s start at the beginning.
June 2021 this friend got engaged. They decided to have a longer engagement and will be getting married June 2023- at this time she asked me to be her maid of honor.I was ecstatic!!!
September 2021 I got engaged! Yay!!
And I didn’t receive the same energy.I believe it all started with the fact that I didn’t ask her to be my maid of honor. We have very different tastes when it comes to well… life. And I asked one of our mutual friends who has been there for me A LOT and vice versa.I had explained to her that I didn’t want her to feel overwhelmed by planning her own wedding and helping me plan mine. This began a lot of issues.
Special days that I had (dress shopping, alterations, tastings etc) she always seemed to have to.. one up me? It became really overwhelming and I told her that I was really struggling with planning my wedding and asked if we could have a few sessions together. Research venues for ceremony and bridal shower etc together.And those seemed to be a blast! But… I started to get an odd feeling. That she was upset with me.
So flash forward to my bachelorette weekend - I had 3 different friend groups collide during this.My work friends, my family friends, And my core group of friends. It seemed to be going really well until one of the girls pulled me aside to “check in”Every time we tried to talk about my wedding that at that point was 12 weeks away, she would butt in with “well my wedding” “well myBachelorette is gonna be on a lake!”And it felt like she constantly brought it back to herself.
We got in a bit of an argument after that weekend because I approached her about it- where she then informed me that she’s had issues with me for the last TWO years.When I asked her why she asked me to be her maid of honor then she responded with “you’re my best friend”
We finally and painfully hashed through this and came to an understanding that she felt neglected but that she understood my wedding was coming up quickly.We both agreed we’d talk her wedding stuff in detail when we got back from our honeymoon.(October 1at) Whilst on my honeymoon I have received countless messages from her about her wedding planning.I keep encouraging her to reach out to the other girls in her bridal party - because some of them were in my bridal party too, and I knew that they have been more than willing to help her.

I’m just really frustrated and feel like myBoundaries keep getting crossed.I don’t know how to continue on forward without being treated horribly.
I need advice. Am I overreacting?
There were more situations too- I just didn’t want to write a novel - so I chose an essay instead.
Thank youFrom an anxious girl who is scared to lose her friend