Bridesmaid/MOH proposal

I called and asked.

I know you didn't ask, but the first piece of advice I'm going to give you is to wait a couple more months to ask.

Second, I know this may not be what you're looking for, but in all honesty, I think the best way is to just call them up/have dinner/ ask. These 'proposals' waste time and money, imo, and they put your girls on the spot. I just met with each of mine, and asked. Your friends love you and they will be happy you asked.

That's just my advice though. You can take it or leave it.

Picked up the phone, dialed her number, and asked. You don't need to propose for them to be in your bp. Tbh, it's 1 more expense, makes them feel like they can't say no, and it's really dumb if you ask me! I can see buying them a nice bottle of wine or taking them out for lunch but not everything has to be a big production.

I put together a box with goodies (pinterest inspired) and hosted a girls night dinner "to propose". it was such fun!

ETA: i agree with waiting until about 6/8 months to ask.

I figured everyone would say wait longer, however, my potential bridal party live in different states and I don't get to see them all the time, so I'm going to start asking this month when I'm able to see one of them.

Just make sure you are certain on the people you ask Think long and hard.

Don't do anything that is going to put too much pressure on them! It might be easier to ask them over the phone, and then give them a box of (useful) goodies the next time you see them.

Yeah one of my best friends lives in Cali so I asked her last week so she can have time to save up. Everyone else I'll ask in the fall on the phone or in person but nothing special

The only person I've asked is my MOH (and I didn't follow the suggestion because when I got engaged, she booked three venue visits, a brunch, and my engagement party), I made her a personalized card reminiscing on our last 4 years together, a bottle of her favorite wine (with a tag that said Hakuna Mascoto), a ring pop, and a stemless wine glass. She loves wine and mascato, so it was perfect for her. It was my way of saying thank you for going on this journey with me because her and I have been prepping for my wedding since FH and I started dating. We both knew that he was the one for me! There was never a question about who was going to be my MOH.

Took them out to dinner and gave them a wine bottle with this lable.

Took them out to dinner and gave them a wine bottle with this label.

I got them a gift from Etsy asking to be my bridesmaid

I personally hate bm proposals. I think they put too much pressure on the bm to say yes. I just asked in person very casually!

I made these boxes for my ladies.

I did sweet/cute post cards that I designed and mailed out. I wrote a personal note on the back of each one. They all loved it and are super excited!

I did it the old school way and called them. No cutesy, over the top proposal boxes or gifts sent to them. Save it for the BM gifts at the wedding.

I organized a private afternoon tea party and asked them to "help me tie the knot" with boxes containing a Kate Spade sailor's knot ring and a mini bottle of champagne.

I just asked them either over the phone or in person. my sister and i both sort of took it as a given that she was my maid of honor and we started discussing wedding details, so i did get her a funny card off of etsy to make it "official."

I asked my BMs either on the phone or in person by just asking. I texted my MOH with a movie quote that was an inside joke to ask.

Okay, I feel better now. I just called mine up and asked. But then I saw all these fancy was to ask and I felt bad lol.