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Beginner November 2023

Bridesmaids and Groomsmen Dilemma! Help Please!

Marnelli, on March 14, 2023 at 7:04 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 6
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This is a bit problem because my wedding tradition and my Husband's wedding tradition is way different and it's confusing. me and him are having issues because I wanted to my elder brother as the best man and his elder Sister as the Matron of honor, they are both with civiled married but because both of them are eldest siblings, I decided to partner them. My husband said it doesn't look right or good which I am not agreeing and I don't see anything wrong. What I want to do is that all family members should be part of my wedding not just couples. In addition, my Husband may want to be my brother in law his best man which is absolutely perfect but he also in a relationship, however please don't judge me, I don't want her partner be my bridesmaid because I have more cousins that I want to be part my wedding and i want only at least 4 or 5 bridesmaids that already includes the maid of honor. I have 3 brothers that will be the groomsmen so I kinda wanted mix and match. However my Mother added that if it's not a couple their partner will feel bad. I need other people's opinion about this because I don't want to be the issue. All I want is that all my family members to be part of my wedding

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Latest activity by Marnelli, on March 15, 2023 at 3:24 PM
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    CM ·
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    Bridesmaids and groomsmen are not couples, matched up or partnered just because they may have to walk back down an aisle together for all of a minute.

    Spouses do not automatically need to be in the wedding party. That's absurd.

    Sides do not have to match.

    Your future BIL's wife is not just a spouse, she's a future SIL.

    IMO assuming good relations, it's a nice gesture when possible to include future siblings and sibling in laws in the bridal party.

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    Beginner November 2023
    Marnelli ·
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    Hi CM thank you for your wonderful advice, I understand your point, yes everyone will be part of my wedding and with all do respect, I am not saying my brother in law's partner will not be invited or be part of the ceremony or not be part of my wedding, just want to clear that part. What I am trying to say is that I wanted to mix up family to be partners as bridesmaids and groomsmen. Not just necessarily couples
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    There's nothing whatsoever wrong with that, though it's also easy to pair up couples if both happen to be in the party. I realize you referred to your BIL's partner, or SO not a spouse or fiancee. If so, it's not necessary to include her in the party. Sorry for the confusion.

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    Beginner November 2023
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    No worries! lol thank you for your advice Smiley smile
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    I think you are overcomplicating this. Your fiance should be able to have whoever he wants as best man and groomsmen just like you should be able to have whoever you want as maid/matron of honor and bridesmaids. Further it should be up to your fiance if he even wants your brother as a groomsman. If he doesn't then either A. have him on your side as a bride's man or B. don't have him in the wedding. When it couples both people don't have to be in the wedding. For example my husband's brother was in our wedding but his wife wasn't. When it comes to pairings if it ends up being his brother who he wants as his best man then he would be paired with whoever the maid of honor is going to be. It doesn't matter if that woman is not his significant other.
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    Beginner November 2023
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    Hello Veronica,


    This advice is amazing, thank you so much
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