Bridesmaids - asking them to do their hair and makeup exactly the same

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Which one of your bridesmaids are you worried will turn up looking like a hot mess? Maybe kick her out now to avoid any problems in the future. /s

This is too much. You became friends with them for how they are. Let their personalities shine through in a beautiful way on your wedding day. Set small boundaries but remember they are still humans and not puppets. They will ask what you want but be mindful that each lady is comfortable with their hair down or up and with little or a ton of makeup. they won't outshine you, they are there to make you shine. Don't be controlling and have fun. I hope you have great day and dont get caught up if things go wrong, you are still marrying your best friend!!!

That's ridiculous. I dont' care if you're paying or not, I don't wear updos. I don't like them, I don't look good in them, and that's it. I would politely back out of your wedding if you required one because I am not a prop, i am your friend that you are supposedly honoring by asking me to stand with you.

View Quoted Comment And if you read all of the comments you would see I have changed my mind and instead of attacking me you’d just go about your day.

Ashley,
I've been to weddings where the bridesmaids had their hair and makeup done exactly the same. At my cousin's wedding back in 2019, the girls all did something similar where we all did neutral makeup (however, it was different as we all had different features) and we all had different types of hairstyles where it was either half and half or in an updo. Again it was similar, but still a little different. So, you can do whatever you want! I had a friend who actually did what you want where their hair and makeup are the same for the pictures, but half of them took their hair down afterwards. What you want is completely fine.

View Quoted Comment That’s what I wanted but I’m going to let them do whatever they want with their hair as long as it is not down and the same with their makeup as long as their are not black or red tones or not to much of those tones.

I wouldn't appreciate being told how to do my makeup and hair. Every person is different and different things look better on some than others. I mean, when you get your hair cut, your stylist will ask how you typically part your hair and cut it that way so it falls correctly. Asking your maids to do everything exactly the same is going to result in some girls who hate their look and don't feel comfortable.

Instead of dictating every detail, why not come up with a few key aspects you really like. You can specify something like an updo with curls/waves and makeup with a neutral color palette and still leave that open for a bit of interpretation from each girl as to how they part their hair, whether its a looser style or a more sleek one, etc. Or, if you don't have a ton of maids, ask what they were leaning towards and then work with them to think of ways to unify their looks. I think you can still have your maids looks look cohesive without specifying every little thing.

I think expecting everyone to wear the exact same hairstyles and exact same makeup look is a bit much. They are individuals, not robots. I think it is totally fair to give some "guidance" and say that you would like them to all have their hair done x y or z, or to have their makeup done professionally etc. But hair and makeup are NOT one-size fits all. I think I look awful in certain shades of lipstick and I HATE my hair in an updo. I'd have a seriously hard time if a bride tried to me that I HAD to wear my hair in an updo with a red lip etc.. it is your day.....but these are friends and family members....don't treat them like your minions.