Bridesmaids Bday is the day before wedding.

I didn’t have a rehearsal at all. I didn’t think they’re totally necessary tbh. You should be able to run her through it really quick day of

Even small kids can celebrate their birthdays in a bigger way before or after the exact date so personally I think she’s immature to ask on that basis. Your idea to have a cake for her was very nice. That said, unless your ceremony is quite complex and involved it’s usually very easy to run through everything day of. I certainly wouldn’t debate her.

A lot of times everyone can't make the rehearsal. I d tell her if she s available you d love to have her attend the rehearsal and would like to celebrate with a cake at the dinner but if she cannot attend you understand.

As an aside, if she’s closer to fiancé, she should be standing on their side, but that’s neither here nor there.


Is this a milestone birthday such as 21 or 40? Even kids have birthday celebrations on a different day when something comes up and they are taught to adapt. Adults should know how long before this time. If she or anyone doesn’t attend the rehearsal, it’s not your fault (and they will blame you) when they don’t know what they are doing or not knowing where to stand or when to walk in. That is the importance of a rehearsal that gets thrown under the bus. Short of a major emergency, which a birthday is not, if someone doesn’t attend the rehearsal and dinner afterward, they don’t need to be standing as an attendant. Set boundaries with consequences and stick to them. This woman doesn’t want to be at your wedding and is wanting you to know, unfortunately.