Bridesmaids box???

Bridesmaid gift boxes/proposal boxes are totally optional! You could just ask them in person, over the phone, or with a card. Instead of doing a proposal box, I mailed my bridesmaids each a customized puzzle that asked them to be a bridesmaid (they each live in a different part of the country, so I couldn't ask them in person). That way, it was something fun and inexpensive for them to put together, and also didn't put pressure on them to say yes. If you have your heart set on bridesmaid proposal boxes, you could include things like candles, personalized wine glasses, bottles of wine (you could even put a custom label on it, asking them to be a bridesmaid), hair ties, etc. Pretty much whatever you want!

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much for your reply.
I absolutely LOVE the puzzle idea!! 3 of mine live in different countries (they are all traveling for the wedding/bachelorettes) so this could work perfectly!!! 💕

Like PP said, boxes are totally optional! I decided to do them because my engagement was super long and it helped get me in the planning spirit. I included personalized wine tumblers that we can all use on the wedding day (I am fully prepared to replace any lost ones if needed), face masks, lip balm, hair ties and little mirrors. Since you mentioned a lot of your BMs will need to travel, other cute ideas are eye masks for sleeping on the plane, luggage tags, or other travel related gifts. If you are planning on getting robes or pjs for everyone to get ready on your wedding day, I personally would skip those for now at risk of them being lost, damaged or forgotten by then, and provide them on the wedding day or shortly before.

View Quoted Comment Your box was really beautiful. And I love the ideas you gave me!! Thank you so much ❤️

On Etsy and Pinterest it is a thing but most people in the real world do not give or receive these. They will ask attendants over the phone or in person at a coffee date. The majority of items in the boxes are not something that anyone beyond the bride has any interest in so it is money wasted that could be spent on a meaningful thank you gift afterwards that fits their individual interests instead of more trinkets that get trashed or donated.

View Quoted Comment It’s good to know this. I like the idea of sending them something since 3 of them leave in a different country than I do, so I think it’d make it more special since I cannot do it in person. But it’s a relief to know I don’t have to go overboard with it. Thanks!

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Be aware that if you choose to do these anyway, shipping costs will be prohibitive. A phone call is just as meaningful and doesn’t pressure anyone to say yes on the spot.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! Luckily, I work for an international airline so I have very good discounts on shipments 😊 but I do agree with what you are all saying. I’m honestly not familiar with the whole bridesmaids thing so really appreciate all of your advice.

I asked all my girls either in person or over the phone. I did get them gifts with wine tumblers and a few other things (nothing personalized or with the word bridesmaid on it so they can use again if they want) after they said yes because I didn't want to pressure them into saying yes just because I gave a gift.

That's more a TV reality show/ magazine trend, not something people have done here for long. Some do it, more don't. A lot of people think it puts pressure be on making it hard to say no , even when someone knows they can't or should not do it. And it can really backfire when a bride asks with presents given, only to have 2 say no immediately and someone else a week or two later. More people stick to the tradition of one bigger present,
not multiple small ones, and give it in the last days before the wedding. These gifts are usually chosen like a birthday gift, individual for each person, not one thing for all.

Hey,

For my request/invitation boxes I wrote them all a letter. Each person got a stainless steel champagne glass, a bottle of wine with a sticker, purchased from Amazon "oh .... this is real, will you be my brides made, custom baked cookies I made, and a bracelet. These are all things I enjoy, know they will enjoy, and can keep using. Make the boxes if you want with things that mean something to you and or them.

Gift bags have become a trend more recently but giving a gift is not a requirement. I was in 4 weddings as a bridesmaid and never received a gift. My friends asked me in person or over the phone. For my bridesmaids, I got them personalized make up bags (with their names) and a card asking them to be my bridesmaid. Go to Etsy.com and search bridesmaid gifts, there you will find a list of ideas.

I decided to give them a gift when I asked because I felt it made it more fun. I gave them champagne themed spa goodies with a note asking them to be in the wedding.

So I got “bride squad” coffee cups off Amazon and put a matching pair of earrings and a lipstick shade that I want all the girls wearing. They don’t have to be “boxes” per say. You don’t “Have” to do anything at all. But just a small momento with a cute note asking them to be your bridesmaid/maid of honor usually gets the job done! Most of my bridesmaids are under 21 but I’ve also seen a lot of people do mini champagne bottles. And I printed little card stock cards that said “I can’t marry my mister without my sisters!”