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Gen
Champion June 2019

Bridesmaid’s boyfriend, and rehearsal dinner

Gen, on August 31, 2018 at 2:02 PM Posted in Parties and Events 0 9

So before I ask this, I want to clarify of course my bridesmaid’s boyfriend will be invited to the wedding, and we are NOT having a headtable so they will be able to sit together at the reception. I am fully aware of all this etiquette, but this one particular situation I’m not sure what to do.

We have 6 total people in our bridal party. 3 are single, 2 have SOs that are not attending (they are from OOT and their SOs won’t know anyone so they’ve already told us they don’t intend to bring them), and 1 bridesmaid has a boyfriend who will be invited.

My question is, for the rehearsal dinner, we are only having immediate family and bridal party. I know it is traditional to also invite the SOs of the bridal party, but he will literally be the only one. To clarify also, I have no problem with having him at the rehearsal dinner. I’ve known him for years and consider him a friend at this point, but he is definitely not in the same category as the other people who will be at the rehearsal dinner.

My questioning if we should invite him is NOT because we don’t want him there, it’s just more like worrying that he will feel awkward being the only one who is not immediate family or one of our 3 best friends. (The bridesmaid and her boyfriend are also both local, so it's not like he'd just be waiting at the hotel or anything, like he would just be at home if he were to not come. We are just concerned that he will feel obligated to come if we invite him and that he may feel a little weird being there.)

Opinions?

9 Comments

Latest activity by Kristen, on August 31, 2018 at 2:23 PM
  • Katy
    Beginner September 2018
    Katy ·
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    Invite him and let him decide if he wants to come or not.

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  • E
    Expert April 2019
    Elizabeth ·
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    Yeah I'd say invite him and he can decide if he feels awkward or not going. No feelings hurt
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    He can choose not to come if he’d like, but you should still do the polite thing and invite him.
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  • annakac
    Devoted February 2019
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    Agreed. If he can't make it/doesn't want to come then oh well but this way you don't make anyone feel bad for not inviting him.

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  • Kristina
    Master August 2018
    Kristina ·
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    This. Don't over think it! He can decide for himself if he wants to go or not.

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  • Brae
    VIP September 2019
    Brae ·
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    Agreed, let him decide.
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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
    Gen ·
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    Haha, seems like the consensus is clear! Thanks all Smiley smile

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  • Mrs.Bee
    Super August 2018
    Mrs.Bee ·
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    I would invite bit indicate that this part is optional for him if it's more accommodating to them. I am sure they will appreciate the choice. Good luck and congratulations on your special day!
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  • Kristen
    VIP August 2018
    Kristen ·
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    Invite him - it will be up to him to decide whether or not he is comfortable.

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