Bridesmaids dilemma

Did she specifically say she can’t be in your wedding because she’s pregnant? Unless she decided it’s too much for her, I don’t see why being pregnant wouldn’t allow her to be your MOH.

There is a lot of advice on here regarding not choosing bridal parties until 6 months out for those reasons. Friendships and relationships change and it’s best to wait.

I havent had to change my bridal party once, whats going on that you have to so much? Why can't she be your MOH if she's pregnant?

Even if your MOH can't participate, why would that mean you'd have to change your wedding party?

View Quoted Comment I don't want to change her out but if this pregnancy is like her last one she is going to have to deliver early which will be right around my wedding. I don't want to be unreasonable. Or seem like a bridezilla. I'm more concerned about her well being than her being in my wedding.

View Quoted Comment If you're more concerned about her then let her decide if she wants to remain in the MOH role or not. Not every pregnancy is the same. Telling someone they're no linger in your party because they got pregnant seems like an a hole move. Letting her decide would be best for you, her, and the friendship.

Since you have had so many troubles already, I think it's time to give yourself the gift of just...not making any more changes. A bridal party is not essential for getting married. So, if anyone else drops out (and it's not actually clear if your MOH has actually dropped out; I would let her make her own decision), don't add anyone new. Don't change people around. Accept your nearest and dearest for who they are and just go with it, however it ends up.

View Quoted Comment I'm not kicking her out as of yet if things seem like she will not be able to full fill her duties or won't be able to make it then I'm going to have to make changes since the dresses are already bought and I don't want the money to go to waste she understands my reasoning and knows I care for her and don't want anything to happen to her and my unborn niece or nephew

View Quoted Comment Oh she has duties. The whole post makes sense now.

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Lol. Just what I was thinking.

Not sure what has happened to require so many changes, but no-one has duties in the wedding party. These aren’t your employees, they are your closest loved ones. It’s meant to honour them.

View Quoted Comment Agreed. They buy a dress, stand up with you at the ceremony and enjoy themselves at the reception. Done.


Unless she has a high risk pregnancy, this is not something for you to worry about or for you to end a friendship over. Kicking someone out of the wedding party is a clear cut way to say you are no longer friends.