Bridesmaids Fighting

When you say he’s to being a bridesmaid / MOH you are saying yes to a financial responsibility. It’s up to the bride, what the bride wants goesz

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Nope. All a bridesmaid needs to do is get a dress, and that dress should be chosen with each bridesmaid's comfort and budget in mind. The bridesmaids should be asked what their budget is, individually and privately. Specific shoes, required professional make-up, required professional hair - all are the responsibility of the bride if she wants them. Bachelorette parties and showers are thrown by those who choose to and offer to, they're no one's responsibility.

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Bridesmaids responsibilities (traditionally) are as follows....

The bridesmaid dresses, shoes and accessories (including jewelry, unless the bride gifts it to them) , the bridal shower & bridal shower gift, the bachelorette party, & the wedding present. (why i said it is a financial responsibility is because there is more than just the dress).

Now, I can understand if the price was over the top..I would definitely help pay, but they should know when saying yes they will have to spend money on something. They cannot just expect the bride to pay for everything.

Also, I am gifting jewelry, and it is also my responsibility for professional hair/make-up, floral accessories, and transportation. They all got their dress (optional style but same color), shoes (because I dont care about them, you cant even see them).

But..for example, I had to have a certain shoe for my sisters wedding, a dress style that she picked out, and I had to have my hair a certain way, she also required we all got spray tans...etc. The bridesmaids paid for all of that & we also paid for hers.

Sounds like they need to get their crap together and sort this out for you. That's no way to behave.

OP is long married, however this needs to be said. Erika, but no. Gifting them jewelry for your wedding is just for your day. The role of bridesmaid is an honour for them, and should be treated as such. Everything you're paying for is for *your* wedding, It's not really for them. What the bride wants doesn't "go" when it comes to spending other people's money,

View Quoted Comment Yes, LOL, been married for a bit now. Our baby boy was born on our first anniversary, causing some strife with my husband who “didn’t want to share our special day”. He got over it quickly. It was a great first year and a not so great second year. But here’s my BAM post: https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/pro-bam-my-cold-wet-perfect-wednesday-wedding-92717/b8bf50a7c4b7e6be.html