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Bekah
Just Said Yes June 2021

Bridesmaids hair and makeup conundrum

Bekah, on April 12, 2020 at 1:09 AM Posted in Hair and Makeup 0 9
Let me preface by saying I have 10 bridesmaids. I cannot afford to pay for all of them to have their hair and makeup professionally done on or off site. I wanted to give them the option to pay for it themselves, however some of my bridesmaids cannot afford this and I know they would feel terrible next to those with professionally done hair and makeup. I figured I would just get my own hair and makeup professionally done off site, and have the bridesmaids all do their own hair and makeup, and make sure it was simple looks everyone can do. They are all truly fantastic at doing their own hair & makeup so that is not a concern.


My question is; is it rude of me to get my hair and makeup professionally done and not let any of my bridesmaids choose to do so?
I mentioned the idea to my maid and matron of honor, who liked the idea. But I have two other other bridesmaids I know might be upset because they’ve already asked me if they could bring their own hair and makeup artists (which I haven’t agreed to, I told them to hold off till I made a decision).
I wouldn’t feel guilty about the decision, except there is a part of me that likes knowing if I’m the only one with professional hair and makeup I will stand out more as the bride. Thoughts?

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Latest activity by Tiffany, on April 20, 2020 at 6:46 PM
  • Rebelle Fleur
    Master July 2021
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    It’s your day it’s fully expected for you to get your and hair and make up done professionally. I don’t believe any of your bridesmaids would expect you not to just because they cannot afford it and if they do that’s pretty selfish of them. I would probably ask those getting theirs professionally done to maybe have it done out of view of the others who can’t afford it. Maybe have it down then you call get dressed together. I’m sure that they appreciate your financial situation just like you appreciate theirs. Or maybe one of the other girls can ask their MUA or you can ask yours if they offer any group priced rates/ payment plans or low cost services. And if they don’t like you said these girls are pretty good with their hair and makeup any way so I wouldn’t worry too much about it.
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  • Mrs.a
    Master October 2021
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    I would certainly give them the option. I don't see why you would offer guidance on whether they can have a stylist do their hair or makeup for them. I personally wouldn't feel comfortable doing my own hair or makeup and could you imagine 10 bridesmaids trying to get ready all at once in a room?

    On the other hand, if you have a few who are comfortable and confident with doing their own hair then let them.

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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
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    I would definitely give them the option. It seems super controlling to tell people “you’re not allowed to get professional hair and makeup done even if you pay for it yourself”
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  • Bekah
    Just Said Yes June 2021
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    Thank you! I definitely am leaning towards giving them the option, I just don’t want anyone to feel left out if they can’t afford it. And I thought I’d feel bad if I got mine done. But you put it really well, I think I’m just overthinking it!
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  • Bekah
    Just Said Yes June 2021
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    Good points! I’ve been in a wedding where we did our own hair and makeup off site & just showed up ready, and it was okay but it created stress for the bride to make sure we all looked similar (this bride had 12 bridesmaids & it was crazy). I just feel bad for the bridesmaids who want it done, but can’t afford to, especially because I can’t offer both to everyone. I wouldn’t want them to feel left out. But my wedding is a year away, we have plenty of time to think about it. They’re just asking me now what we’re going to do so I wanted to try to give them a clear answer early. I’m just overthinking.
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  • Bekah
    Just Said Yes June 2021
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    Right?! Plus that’s just added stress to make sure everyone is on the same page. I just feel bad that I can’t afford to pay for both services for everyone. But I’m probably overthinking it, most of my bridesmaids won’t care.
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  • Rebelle Fleur
    Master July 2021
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    I would say that average price is 200$ for hair and make up combined. Your wedding is a year away. If each bridesmaid puts side 20$ a month or 10$ every two weeks they can afford it. I don’t think that’s too much to ask from everyone. I’d just talk to them about it now so they have a head start. It’s nice that you’re concerned about every ones comfort level and wanting the best for all your girls but I’m sure it will all work out fine.
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  • Mrs.a
    Master October 2021
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    Yeah I hear you. However as you said your wedding’s a year away and if they really want it done that gives them time to save $
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  • Tiffany
    Dedicated October 2020
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    The girl I hired for makeup has a 5 bridesmaid minimum for day of since it is a weekend. I wanted her so much that I've budgeted to make up the difference if nobody can afford it. I'm giving them the option to pay for it themselves though but with the person I hired. I haven't said anything yet but a week or two out I'll do a final count of who will pay for it and the ones that say they cannot I will just pay for. If I didnt have a minimum to meet then I would just give them the option and let it be up to them if they were able to get it done. If you can afford to pick up a couple then offer it to who you know would need it most. Everyone should understand and should not expect you to pay for everyone even if you do pay for a couple. If any of that made sense lol

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