Bridesmaids hair

Yes it’s wrong to ask her to keep her hair longer. Why does she have to do anything at all with her hair? Why does she have to look more like everyone else? If it’s short, it should be super easy to style. Maybe she feels more confident with short hair.

Maybe she is more confident with short hair? I personally don't see the issue with her styling her hair as she wants and I think it is wrong for you to ask her change her appearance for your wedding.

I agree with previous posts - I would feel a little upset if I had someone ask me to do something specific to my hair...

View Quoted Comment Thank you for you're input Sarah. As I said in the above discussion I am 100% okay with the fact one of my girls likes her hair short. I know she feels more confident that way and I am not asking for her to grow out her hair in the next 9 or so months for the wedding. I just want it a touch longer to add some little special touch to it, like a clip or whatever. I also want her to feel special and get the same special treatment that my other bridesmaid is getting. I like to make everyone equal and I was simply just asking what option there would be for her hair, since it is short. I should also add that I have two men and two women standing by side when I get married. So I am not making her look and be like everyone else. I just want her to feel special and give my girls every opportunity to feel special and not left out because one has something that the other does not.

I'm not asking her to drastically change her appearance. I asked if it was wrong to ask ther to grow it a touch longer. But its whatever.

There is no “dilemma.” Her hair choice is completely up to her. If she enjoys her hair short, that is great. Whether or not she is able to or wants to wear a clip, headband, etc. is her choice. Bridesmaids are chosen for who they are, not their looks. Guests will know she’s a member of the wedding party regardless of her hairstyle!

It's not a big deal if her hair looks different than the others. You can even save money because you won't have to hire a stylist for her.

View Quoted Comment Im not being a bad person, im not asking her to completely transform but I guess I will choose my words carefully or not post anymore.


Just trying to get some feedback for a valid question.

View Quoted Comment No one here said you were a bad person, but the feedback you’re getting is likely going to be the majority of answers. It crosses a line to ask someone to grow their hair out for your event, whether your intentions are to help her feel special that day or not.

View Quoted Comment Okay, thanks.

I'm a little confused about the "feeling special" aspect of your question. Are the other BMs wearing hair clips and you're concerned her hair won't hold a clip and she'll feel left out? If so, perhaps you could go with some kind of flower crown or wreath or a pretty metallic wire hairpiece, since those work with any length hair. As someone who rocked a pixie for decades, it didn't take much growth for my pixie to feel like it was "overgrown" and more likely to not style the way I wanted it to. Based on your posts, it's clear you're not wanting to dictate what she does, but I agree with others that it's a fine line to walk if you ask her to "grow her hair out a little." My wedding was a long time ago, but three BMs had shoulder length or longer hair and one had a pixie (her hair was incredibly curly and she HATED it when it got to be what she considered "too long", so she kept it VERY short) -- they all wore small white floral crowns (it was the 80's, so that was a thing... ) and looked beautiful. It sounds like you already have both men and women in your bridal party, so they aren't all going to look the same any way. Personally, I'd let it go. Good luck!

What about a sparkly headband, that won't need longer hair, which tones in with whatever clips etc that you get for the other girls? Or could you give her bigger more sparkly earrings (if she has pierced ears and would like that, of course) just to give her the same level of bling as everyone else?

Here are some inspo pics - one of them looks like they've just run glitter/gold leaf through it, which is pretty cool!

Have you already bought the hair clips? Do you have some in mind that we can see and maybe we can give opinion on something else to get her? What are you doing for the men to feel special, do they wear hair clips too?
I also just want to mention that it’s completely ok not to have your bridal party wear anything in their hair. You can do something else that’s nice to make them feel special if this is becoming too complicated

View Quoted Comment Omg! Rosie thank you so much for the input! This is sooooo helpful! ❤😢

View Quoted Comment The men will not be wearing clips, I just wanted my friend to feel special, since my other bridesmaid will have her hair done up and all.

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You're so welcome! I actually love that gold leaf one. I have no idea how it sticks to the hair but I think it looks fabulous, haha! My mum has short hair, maybe I should suggest it to her, haha!

Is my best friend in your wedding too?! Because your description is exactly like my MOH! She has a pixie cut and it's platinum blonde. She actually asked me if I wanted her to grow out her hair and I told her she should do whatever she feels comfortable with, so she is keeping it shorter. Have you asked her for her opinion on a way to add a little sparkle on your wedding day? Honestly, I find that just asking my friend what she's comfortable with is the best avenue because girls with pixie cuts often have a ton of great ideas on how to dress up their short hair. I also love all of the ideas that Rosie posted, I was going to suggest a pretty lace headband or something like a hair vine but that's more like a halo or headband that she could wear.

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much Allie. I havent asked her yet just because I wanted some ideas and suggestions before having a conversation with her about it.

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I get it! I was thinking the same way with my friend. At first she was hellbent on growing her hair out. I never asked her to though. And I just had no experience at all with pixie cuts so I asked her what she wanted to do and she said to just leave it up to her. So might be good to just have a quick chat!

View Quoted Comment ❤ Thank you!