Bridesmaids hair/makeup

That’s so sweet of her! And honestly, I would ask them if you’re trying to save money!


I’ve been in wedding parties where I did my own makeup, paid for my own, and the bride paid for our makeup to be done. I was never offended or anything because in my head it was about the bride and groom. While the wedding party is still important, it’ll always be the couple first. 💙

That’s awesome she’s wanting to do that for you! Unless you want a specific look for hair & makeup, you’re not responsible for your bridesmaids. I’m paying for mine, my MOH (my sister) & 1 bridesmaid (my daughter) hair & makeup- my other bridesmaid wants to do her own. I’m not doing it because I want a certain look but because it’s a gift.

If you're requiring them to have hair and makeup professionaly done then you need to pay for it.

Since you aren't having someone come in for you, already, I would leave that up to your bridesmaids! If you have a group text, I would just send a text asking if they would like for you to set up professional hair and makeup for them. If you aren't planning to pay for it, just make that clear. It may be helpful to go ahead and get some quotes so you have prices to tell your girls ahead of time!

I would ask your girls what they think. You don't owe it to them to pay for professional make up for them. They might be interested in booking their own MUA or they might decide to just do their own!

View Quoted Comment You cannot require people to have their hair and makeup professionally done. That is off limits. You may say, I like updos, or I like airbrush makeup. But in the end, face and hair are their body, and the worst bridezilla cannot require professional services. They are not models you are paying $1000 for the performance. They are your friends. It would be totally rude to even imply that one of them is so ugly or poorly groomed that without a professional overhaul, they are unacceptable.

It is pretty common for a relative or friend to do this, and very nice. My bridal party and I did our own, but two of Hubby's SIL did MOG, and about 5 of his sisters.

View Quoted Comment I never said that I was requiring. I'm not even having a wedding party. Every time you reply to my comment it's something negative :-(

View Quoted Comment That makes sense! I don’t care if they do it themselves or professionally, or really how they do their hair as long as it’s not a crazy style.

Thank you guys! I don’t know why I just assumed brides had to pay for bridesmaids! I’m not requiring a specific style or that they get it professionally done either so I’ll just shoot a text to them about doing it themselves and see their thoughts

View Quoted Comment I guess we have different opinions on things. 🙂 It is nothing personal. I think you are a nice addition to the boards.

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She was not implying it was a requirement but there are brides that do pay for the parties hair and makeup to ensure everyone looks their very best on the big day. Its actually more common then you realize. It really should not be an issue if the bride is paying for it... what woman doesn't like to be pamper? Like you said, they are our friends which means we already love them so its not a rude implication to ask for everyone to get their hair done for pictures.

View Quoted Comment It is said a lot on WW, If the bride requires you to get your hair professionally done, and was said here, require. And to anyone outside the celebrity entourage model Reality TV and others favor, which allow behavior that is rude, and dictatorial by brides, all in the name of perfect looks and pictures, it has always been considered exceedingly rude to set any requirement to use professional services. You pick your wedding party to honor them, and hold them close, on wedding day. Beyond getting the clothes the bride has chosen for the ceremony, Your adult friends need to be well groomed personally. Absolutely no requirement for professional services. Bridesmaids have never been expected to do everything and anything brides want to give them a perfect day. That is a new myth of the industry that makes it's money selling products and services. But only an ill mannered bride nit picks every little thing about BM appearance. Their bodies are off limits . There is no need for any bridesmaid to change her hair style, length or color, or that of her makeup, or remove tattoos that are part of their skin. No need to change the color of their skin. As long as their hair and other grooming are appropriate for the formality of the occasion, as any guest or participant would be for a dressy or formal wedding, that is enough. This is a standard of etiquette that goes beyond celebrities and TV, to the land of real people.
And it is actually offensive to say or imply that your friends and family have substandard looks without professional hair and makeup services. The standard for friends and family is not that of models or actresses, doing a job for high pay. It is simply awful to hear people set that standard for people they are supposed to honor. If a bride wants to offer professional services to those who want them, that is and always has been fine. My issue is with tge frequency that people on WW say, a bride must pay for services if she REQUIRES a certain look, or REQUIRES that her BP use professional services.

You post to me starts by saying she was not implying it was a requirement. But that is exactly what she said, and what many say every month. Etiquette for weddings is mostly only a slight variation on basic manners. And in our society it is considered rude to dictate the personal looks of friends and family. And to treat them like props or paid professional actors, whose function is to present a look that the couple or hostess or othe person wants. Brides are not professional movie producers, and the wedding participants need not transform their appearance to meet bride's approval. A set of clothes, dress or suit, that is all the bride may require. Not reject small personal jewelry if it would be appropriate with the outfit. Not haircolor. No tanning or other change of skincolor, or racial characteristics either. Nothing personal.

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Lol okay lady

no one is saying anything about changing skin colors. you are going way to deep into this... chill

Because of COVID-19. Either that or make sure the makeup artist uses different brushes after each person

View Quoted Comment There have been posts from bride's wanting all to spray tan, and I have been asked. And a friend and I both dropped out of a wedding when the bride scheduled an appointment for us. Since she had shown us her inspo pictures of California beach party , hers at a lake beach in NY, she assumed we would all have noticed the girls were all blond with pony tails. And 3 of her BM were old gymnastics team buddies, and their team all did blond or sandy brown pony tails. So we found out she arranged the pre wedding appointment for out haircuts and bleaching. since ourho ey colored skin was lighter that some of their tans, she thought her Army buddies would notmind going blond and for me loosing a foot of black hair, or our other friend loosing her kinky curls and dark color, to go blond. And she had even talked about the HMU being able to change my Asian eyes to just like, you know, everyone else. But Lissette was proud of her African heritage, abd me of my Asian forbears. And we did not want to do this " small, just for me" favor. Seemed she wanted us to look White, and we wouldn't. Another BM quit because she was appalled the bride would ask such a thing. But the other two, like the bride , could not figure why we would not help the bride make her vision come true. Right, no Black or Asian people belong on California beaches? 😟 So yeah, in the list of personal characteristics not to be changed, I DO count not
asking for tans, or changing characteristics of racial identity, be it Black hair, or Asian eyes, to hair style, or color...etc.

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LOL someone has way to much time on their hands