Bridesmaids meeting

Why do your bridesmaids need a binder?? ETA because I'm so confused. Why do you need a meeting? What is this? Why?? If you don't even know what to discuss with them why?!?!?

"first" bridal meeting?

You say this like there will be a second meeting.

I am confused.

A binder and meetings? Oh god. This never ends well.

Bridal meeting? for what?

You shouldn't need meetings. Or a binder.

Nope. Nope. and Nope. You're not running Yahoo.

They need to know what to wear and when to show up.

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No meetings or binders for us.

I send group text/emails if I need to share the same information to all my bridesmaids. Like dress styles, sales, makeup/hair details. But that's so I don't have to remember to tell each one when we speak.

Maybe you could discuss dresses, what you expect from everyone, if you don't have a planner and you're assigning you BMs with things to do for you let them know then, ask if anyone is going out of town or any other dates you need to be aware of so you don't schedule events/appointments on those days if you expect them to be there.

I didn't create a binder for my wedding party but we all are in a group chat and we contact each other often with question, pictures, and tasks.

The binder I was creating was, with the picture of their dress, shoes and hairstyle etc.

If you want your bridesmaids to get together so everyone can meet for the first time, fine. Go out to lunch or dinner and drinks. Leave the binders at home. Remember that these are your friends, not your employees. Do what Elena does and just send group emails to get needed information across.

If I was given a binder to be a BM I'd throw it on the ground and be on my way out the door and to the nearest bar in 5.4 seconds.

You need a binder to show them a dress? Overthinking. Text a picture. This does not need to be a production.

My girls wanted to all meet and talk about dress styles and such. We went to lunch and had drinks casually while talking about specifics like colors and length. Nothing major. Not everyone went but definitely no binders or "meeting". That all seems like too much

Lovie, your bridesmaids don't get "assignments". This is your wedding to plan, not theirs. If they say "Hey, I'd love to come help you stuff invites and address envelopes" then by all means, take them up on the offer. But don't ever assign work to your friends. Their only job is to get the dress and show up the day of.

So you've already chosen their dress, shoes and hairstyle? 9 months before your wedding? Did they have any input at all? Did you even ask their budgets before you chose these things? I'm starting to feel really bad for your bridesmaids.

Rene, don't make it so formal. Send some group texts or emails with those details, and invite your girls out to a nice lunch. If they can't come, it's no big deal because they are only required to buy the dress and show up on the big day. Many friends will go above and beyond and that's wonderful, however please don't demand it and treat your friends like glitter covered slaves. And please don't "assign" them tasks, if you need help then ask, but don't demand.

OK I will leave the binder idea out, the meeting will be at a restaurant, food and drinks..

Meetings and binders are for business employees, who get paid to do their job.

Me and my MOH share a pinterest board to pass ideas back and forth along with just texting my other BMs. We're friends not business partners.