Bridesmaids not coming to wedding

I am in a bridal party for a sept wedding and one of the bridesmaids sent a message to our group text [with the bride] that although she intends to come to all the events, it might not actually be feasible when the time arrives because she is an essential worker and who knows how things will pan out when the time comes. especially cause pretty much all of the bridal party has to travel out of state. and the bride replied saying if any of us feel uncomfortable due to covid then she understands and it's ok.

so basically in times like these, i think it's better to be more understanding that people are uncomfortable with having to travel or to attend things with crowds. i don't think it's anything against you at all. but you have every right to feel disappointed.

Yeah a few of my bridesmaids won't be able to come but they have been supportive of me and I understand why they cannot come so it's cool. I did spend money on personalized gifts and such and will lose out on that but it wasn't THAT much. They also spent money on a bridesmaid dress that they won't be wearing so I'd say it's even (I will offer to refund them the money also).

It sounds like the girls aren't being supportive of you continuing on with your wedding and I think if that's the case then I understand why you'd be upset. But if they can't come because of covid I think it's their decision and as long as y'all have an open discussion on it I think you should be understanding. Also, I wouldn't worry about replacing people in your bridal party.

I totally understand why you're disappointed; the emotional and financial aspects are enough to be upset individually, let alone together. However, this is a really unique time and I think it's more important to be understanding. You would never want to make people feel like they have to do something they aren't comfortable doing, so while it's upsetting, it is probably worth letting it go.