Bridesmaids Proposals

I found the boxes at Hobby Lobby for $3 each. I filled it with a scrunchy, travel jewelry case, a mirror with their initial on it, eye mask and travel perfume atomizer. We switched our colors back to black, white and gold. But the card I made on canva shows the colors we decided to no longer use so disregard that. But I found the card template on Canva and printed at Office Depot. I found most of my items from Amazon and SHEIN and thankfully the scrunchies, eye mask, travel cases and atomizers came in a pack of 6. I hope this helps you!

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much for the idea!

View Quoted Comment You’re most welcome! Since it’s wedding season check out Target dollar spot section and Dollar Tree for gifts as well.

I asked my bridesmaids through a personalized puzzle that I found on Etsy! I didn't want to do any large or elaborate box (since I felt it might put pressure on them to say yes), but I still wanted to send them each something. The puzzles were cute, inexpensive, and easy to send in the mail. They each had a different design and came with a card. Here's what one of them looked like:

View Quoted Comment Thatis super cute! Thank you!

Most weddings I’ve been in, the bride just asked by word of mouth over coffee or text in a regular conversation and saved her money for a thank you gift after the wedding that was associated with each individual’s everyday interests. A lot of people say they prefer the couple to pay for wedding day expenses but that is not a gift because those are photo props, and others say that a phone call, instant message over social media, text, whatever is not appropriate because it’s not in person but that is how people who are miles apart or on different schedules communicate. Expenses and expectations must be brought up first before being asked so that the individual can decide if they can or want to be a bridesmaid. Horror stories where expenses add up as you go are often the result of not having a clear plan in place before anyone is asked.


The first wedding I was in, we only got generic earrings themed to the bride’s interests that we had to wear at the wedding. Those got thrown out a couple years after during a move. The proposal box trend is very new and not universal. They are expensive (especially if they have to be shipped) and most items are tossed out or passed on to someone else. Plus as is frequently mentioned in other posts, they put a great deal of pressure on the individual to say yes on the spot for fear of offending the bride if they say no or they need to think about it first.
I received one proposal box for a wedding I ended up not being a bridesmaid in and it was expensive priced knickknacks that got given away or donated to Goodwill. Skip these and an ave your money for the thank you gift tailored to their individual interests that is given on the wedding day.
Also don’t ask before 6 months before the wedding because there is nothing they need to do before then, and they only need to buy a dress and get alterations as needed, and show up at the rehearsal and wedding day to support you. Don’t ask anyone out of obligation to make other people happy or because of social pressure. Typically when the wrong people are asked too early, that is when relationships end as a result of them backing out.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for expressing this. I can see where the box might add on pressure to people. I have already officially asked my MOH but she knows to keep hush hush for the others. We meet up once a year in person for a giant girls trip since most of us are in different states. The trip is just over 5 weeks away which I know would be early since we are aiming to get married next year in June. I just wanted to tell them in person.


As for responsibilities, I am going to pay for everyone's outfits and only ask them to take on the expense of arriving and their own hotel. My MOH has taken on the role of paying for the Bachelorette party even though I just want a calm night of board games and pizza like we do on our girls trip. The girls can have their hair as they want, I have basically a shaved head and don't do make up so I won't expect any of them to do anything extravagant. Also I hope with telling them in advance that we can discus and help come up with plans if some people can't afford their tickets. I also know my MOH has said that she will help with expenses for the others if they need it.

View Quoted Comment These are very cute!

I wanted to share what I decided to do! I even made them for my partner and his side.

View Quoted Comment Love it!! They turn out really nice.